I was reading a WW thread on another site recently, and she was debating whether or not to confess all to her BH as she ended the A....and she had the additional worry that POSOM's BW had discovered he was in an A but didn't know who the AP was yet.
Of course, this kicked off a major debate between the other posters.
Many were advising her to confess all because it would better her chances of saving her M if she went to her BH first....that A's were always liable to come out, especially in her case because OMBW was already on the trail.
But, of course, there was also a large chorus of posters telling her to keep silent if she was sure all traces of the A had been deleted/removed (which the WW claimed they were), and to deny anything if there was no proof.
Not surprisingly, the WW went with the advice of the 'keep it secret' crowd.
The thing that struck me about this debate though was neither side addressed or acknowledged one of the major danger points if she decided to keep the A hidden.
What if her OM went on to FUTURE A's and ended up getting busted in THAT A, and the BW in digging for info discovered his past A's, including the one WW thought was so well hidden?
And the likelihood of him cheating again was pretty high....WW shared that POSOM had actually ended one LTA with another WW to start up with her in the first place.
It got me thinking.
How common is it that a WS is caught out because their AP gets busted in another A long after their's is over?
I have read a couple threads on another site where a BS did go out of there way to expose to OBS of past A's their WS was engaged in after discovering the most recent one.
How common is this?
Was anyone here informed of their WS's A because the OM/OW had been caught in a LATER A by their BS, who then went on to expose all the AP's they dug up?
Of course, this kicked off a major debate between the other posters.
Many were advising her to confess all because it would better her chances of saving her M if she went to her BH first....that A's were always liable to come out, especially in her case because OMBW was already on the trail.
But, of course, there was also a large chorus of posters telling her to keep silent if she was sure all traces of the A had been deleted/removed (which the WW claimed they were), and to deny anything if there was no proof.
Not surprisingly, the WW went with the advice of the 'keep it secret' crowd.
The thing that struck me about this debate though was neither side addressed or acknowledged one of the major danger points if she decided to keep the A hidden.
What if her OM went on to FUTURE A's and ended up getting busted in THAT A, and the BW in digging for info discovered his past A's, including the one WW thought was so well hidden?
And the likelihood of him cheating again was pretty high....WW shared that POSOM had actually ended one LTA with another WW to start up with her in the first place.
It got me thinking.
How common is it that a WS is caught out because their AP gets busted in another A long after their's is over?
I have read a couple threads on another site where a BS did go out of there way to expose to OBS of past A's their WS was engaged in after discovering the most recent one.
How common is this?
Was anyone here informed of their WS's A because the OM/OW had been caught in a LATER A by their BS, who then went on to expose all the AP's they dug up?