Unsure in Seattle

Brother, brother, brother.

I think that, in your heart, you know what you have to do.

You established a firm boundary. If you let it go, she will never respect you.

There have to be consequences to breaking the NC.

GTdad

This. Maybe either Wyoming or the Smokey Mountains. Whichever is farther away from her.

Complexity

It's a no brainer OP

Lon

yes... easy choice. (atleast coming from a divorcee that is forever stuck coparenting my son with his cheater of a mother).

If you like your house then stay and kick her out. Keep the dog too if you love it. If she wants to stay or take the dog then sic a laywer on her.

EHuntIMF

So should i yell at her and throw the emails at her? I was only able to get 3 emails, but i saw many more. Should just calmly tell her about it and not let her see me care?
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bandit.45

You don't need to say anything. Print them out and lay them on top of the suitcases sitting outside the front door that you packed for her. Have the locks changed.
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EHuntIMF

We are not home yet. We carpool to work and I have to pick her up soon. Do I do it then or wait till I get home? I still have to remember that I have to work tomorrow and we only have one car. (It's hers)

Beowulf

Can't you take a taxi? Call a coworker and pay them to pick you up until you get a car? Rent a car until you buy one? I wouldn't say a word. I would go home, start packing her things in a suitcase, put them in her car and say "have a nice life."

bandit.45

I would do it when you get home. First thing. I would just show her the evidence and tell her you cannot remain married to a liar. Sounds like you will have to continue living together for the time being and have an in-house separation. These suck. Start looking on Craigslist for apartment shares near your work.
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TDSC60

You gave her a choice - OM or husband. She has chosen OM.

Don't tip your hand now. You said you are getting a car soon. Stay calm until you have protected yourself. Then download a Do-it-yourself Divorce kit and fill in your part then hand it to her along with the emails and tell her to fill in her portion.

Or if you are completely, definitely done with her - get a lawyer and have her served.

Good luck, It's time to move on. You have wasted too much time with someone who has no respect for you already.

chapparal

I think the first thing you do is ask her to borrow her phone. Then pull up the texts and start reading them out loud to her. Ask her what she thinks she would do if she were you. If she won't let you see it (I would take it away from her but that's just me) read her the texts you have and ask her what she thinks. Then tell her you see no point to this marriage. Go have a wonderful life with a fantasy.

EHuntIMF

That might be the best option right now. She was lovey dovey after work and i didn't bring it up, so either she knowsabout me going through her phone and trying to gauge where i am at or she doesn't know and is starting to get sloppy thinking she got over. I will wait until the care get here on saturday and see if she has change the code on her phone tomorrow, but i will be throwing her out once the car gets here
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bandit.45

Stay frosty and don't let on. Bang her a few times for good measure.

warlock07

Any reason that you think it has not gone physical already? She did say that his family stays nearby.

Shaggy

Oh, and call and cancel her phoe service if you can.

She has played you, lied to your face, and chose the OM. I would boot her out, expose the affair, and go dark on her for at east two weeks.
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