I feel pretty sure we are going to be better off without him but

lisa3girls · 11-09-2011, 06:31 AM

my hurt and anger are still so raw.... for reasons I can't understand, after everything he has done to us, I still love him.

But I have to say, nobody is yelling at anyone at home... it was also like a battlefield with him *****ing and moaning and complaining constantly about someone or something, usually directed at me or the kids.

I often tried to defuse the situation, but it never helped... funny how I can get the kids to do what needs to be done without yelling and belittling them. (when HE is not here).

Will I ever stop hurting this much? He is being served today. I refuse to allow him to hurt us anymore with his open affair with another woman while we are still married.

uphillbattle · 11-09-2011, 07:06 AM

You will find that the pain will begin to taper off, and the good days will begin to outnumber the bad ones. Unfortunitly this takes much time. In your case the fact that your children are a bit older and take less direct time will make it easier for you to do things for yourself that many single moms would not have the time for. It is really good that you are already realizing that you are truly better off without him in your life and in the end will only make you a much stronger person for it. The loving caring guy you find in the future (and yes someone like you will find one) will benifit from it greatly.

Stay strong and realize that this is an oppertunity to discover who you are and better find the right person to be with the rest of your life.

Good luck too you and stay strong.

lisa3girls · 11-09-2011, 07:09 AM

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Originally Posted by uphillbattle

You will find that the pain will begin to taper off, and the good days will begin to outnumber the bad ones. Unfortunitly this takes much time. In your case the fact that your children are a bit older and take less direct time will make it easier for you to do things for yourself that many single moms would not have the time for. It is really good that you are already realizing that you are truly better off without him in your life and in the end will only make you a much stronger person for it. The loving caring guy you find in the future (and yes someone like you will find one) will benifit from it greatly.

Stay strong and realize that this is an oppertunity to discover who you are and better find the right person to be with the rest of your life.

Good luck too you and stay strong.

Thank you... I am struggling with getting out and doing things. I feel like my girls NEED me right now. I know my friend plays some card game on Tuesday evenings right in my town, and I could have gone yesterday, but I felt guilty leaving the girls... my stbx was doing it ALL the time when I was working to be with the OW and I thought it was awful.