Re: Don't trust my wife, marriage struggling to survive
Any spouse who has a secret life isn't commited to a marriage. Myspace, facebook, text messaging are all ways of hiding things from your spouse. She should be doing nothing she needs to hide from you, if she is you are headed for trouble.
I have a problem with the suggestion of separation. My wife asked me several times to move out for a while, I would never do it. All that would have done was give her the freedom to see her lover more and get me out of our home which she wanted to keep.
In this age of electronic communication it has become easy for weak willed people to create a fantasy life. Then they think their real life is horrid, and as a spouse you become the monster that makes it horrid. I'm sure she will argue about a joint password, she will tell you you need to trust her and you have no right to read what her and her friends talk about. I would agree with that if she wasn't a cheater. When she cheated she gave up her right to privacy(in certain areas) for a long time, if she can't except that then she hasn't changed and isn't commited to your marriage. She really has no choice here, to stay married she needs to hide nothing from you, if she isn't willing, I say cut her loose.