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Ok, why exactly is he not speaking to ME??

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Stbx just came to pick up the girls for a movie, I am sitting here and he doesn't look at me or even greet me. REALLY? I mean am I the one that f---d someone behind his back for 1.5 years? (oh no wait, that would be him), Am I the one who refused an offer of reconciliation and marriage counseling? (oh wait, again him), Oh, gosh I guess maybe cutting off my money to him and filing for divorce pissed him off... but gosh, he wanted out right? Tell me again why he is not speaking to ME? WTF?
 
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I've been there too. But, wait--the same scenario but he had plenty to say to me. Count your blessings that he isn't speaking to you! My guess would be that he is giving you the silent treatment because you stopped the "cake eating". A wayward spouse never seems to like that.:rolleyes:
 
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And you know what?? 2x I asked him to talk, he declined saying he needed 'space'... I have given him EVERY opportunity to fix his F--up, but NOPE-- oh and he was all 'this doesn't have to be ugly, I'll help you any way I can with the kids or the condo, just tell me what I can do' until I did the big 180 (including closing the checking account-- he didn't put money in it anyway it was ALL my paycheck). Really unbelievable, so either he didn't mean it and it was an act to keep me from not cutting him off, or he truly believed I was going to wait around for him while he ate cake.
 
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Lisa, so sorry you have to go thru this. My XW is the poster queen for passive agressiveness. She had the affair after 30 years of marriage with a good friend of mine. All was good until I told her not to contact me anymore (she was cake eating) now she will not say 3 words to me even during an hour meeting for her to pick up her stuff. Actually this is a gift, by not talking less for you to digest later. Just realize that they are feeling it, they may not want to admit it, but they are. Let them keep it bottled up, eat up their insides. Stay strong, dont let them see you sweat. somebody wrote "the opposite of love is not hate but indifference" AMEN!
 
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