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post #46 of 62 (permalink) Old 08-23-2016, 07:26 PM
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Hell I Wonder if OP is for real. Hell! Never should have gotten married based on her track record.


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I'll never understand why they apologize for snooping....

The spouse is actively back stabbing you and you're the one feeling guilty?!?

So ironic.

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i would encourage you, OP, to read the book "Grow a Pair". I was a great book for me to read wh n I was dealing with shyt.
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I'll never understand why they apologize for snooping....

The spouse is actively back stabbing you and you're the one feeling guilty?!?

So ironic.
I agree - but we even see here the occasional poster who would read that story and would proceed to berate the OP over their snooping. I'm surprised they haven't made an appearance yet to be honest.


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If you think she's a cheater now, wait until the "honeymoon" period is over, and her interest in you naturally starts to wane.

There is nothing rash or impulsive about a man who divorces his cheating newlywed wife. It's what 99% of us would do. You're seeing who she really is.
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Godspeed, @NewlyWedGuy , Godspeed.

Hopefully you have at least have been lurking after you posted and logged off.
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End it immediately.
This, before kids come into the picture. If she did this when engaged, and did it right after you married, she will continue doing it. You might want to make it work, OP, but doesn't sound like she does. Sorry you're going through this.
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I am typically more understanding than a lot of the 2x4 people on this site, but I agree. This woman is not marriage material. This is who she is. Heed what she is showing you.

GTFO
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oh no! You married a cheater. That is who she is. She will never be faithful. My uncle had mistresses to the mistress. It's who he was until the day he died. That's who she is.

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Hello,

Firstly, thanks for taking the time to read my post. I am new to this community and looking for advice from people that may have been in a similar situation.

I have been married for two weeks and back from the honeymoon for about 1 week. I was somewhat surprised to find out that my wife this week and weekend was "sexting" other guys and also asking them for times that they could talk over the phone and assumably meet up. The guy she is mostly doing this with was not a past boyfriend but is someone that she used to "hook up" with.

A little history: this happened before while we were engaged and we worked through it. She was texting this guy and a couple other guys, trading provocative photos, sexting, etc. I confronted her about it, she apologized and committed to stop and put her best efforts forth in our relationship. I forgave her for it, committed to not talk about it to cast shadows from the past and move forward.

And before anyone asks: yes, i found out by checking her text messages, i know - it is wrong, but i will only defend this by saying that she is very self-relevant when she has something to hide (will spare you the details, but it is quite obvious) - i wish i could say we had a better foundation for trust - i genuinely thought we had gotten to that point after the last incident and before we continued on with the engagement and marriage.

So - i post here because i am somewhat at a loss for what to do. I approached this with her in the past and her commitment to stop wasn't held to. Here is the thing: we are (extremely) early on in our marriage, and i do want to make this work - I am not the kind of person to be hasty or rash in my decisions or actions. I would welcome any thoughts or feedback here.

I'll also mention (for context) - we have known each other for 5 years, dated for 2 years, and were engaged for almost a year - also, the intimacy in our relationship is otherwise very healthy.

Thank you very much (in advance) for your consideration on this and any opinions you have to offer.
This is what annulment was made for.

The problem in this situation is not your wife, she is a lost cause the problem is you. Why do you accept so little. Get that fixed and you will not be with this person and will have a better life.

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If she is capable of doing that during the honeymoon phase of your marriage, I shudder to think what she's capable of after a few years and life's stresses start creeping up on her.
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