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post #1 of 62 (permalink) Old 08-23-2016, 08:24 AM Thread Starter
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Married for 2 weeks and wife is already cheating (sort of)

Hello,

Firstly, thanks for taking the time to read my post. I am new to this community and looking for advice from people that may have been in a similar situation.

I have been married for two weeks and back from the honeymoon for about 1 week. I was somewhat surprised to find out that my wife this week and weekend was "sexting" other guys and also asking them for times that they could talk over the phone and assumably meet up. The guy she is mostly doing this with was not a past boyfriend but is someone that she used to "hook up" with.

A little history: this happened before while we were engaged and we worked through it. She was texting this guy and a couple other guys, trading provocative photos, sexting, etc. I confronted her about it, she apologized and committed to stop and put her best efforts forth in our relationship. I forgave her for it, committed to not talk about it to cast shadows from the past and move forward.

And before anyone asks: yes, i found out by checking her text messages, i know - it is wrong, but i will only defend this by saying that she is very self-relevant when she has something to hide (will spare you the details, but it is quite obvious) - i wish i could say we had a better foundation for trust - i genuinely thought we had gotten to that point after the last incident and before we continued on with the engagement and marriage.

So - i post here because i am somewhat at a loss for what to do. I approached this with her in the past and her commitment to stop wasn't held to. Here is the thing: we are (extremely) early on in our marriage, and i do want to make this work - I am not the kind of person to be hasty or rash in my decisions or actions. I would welcome any thoughts or feedback here.

I'll also mention (for context) - we have known each other for 5 years, dated for 2 years, and were engaged for almost a year - also, the intimacy in our relationship is otherwise very healthy.

Thank you very much (in advance) for your consideration on this and any opinions you have to offer.

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LOL

You rug swept this during the engagement and it happened again. What are you going to do now, rug sweep it again? I bet you'll forgive her if she promises to stop, right? Pinky swear? Get the marriage annulled, fool.

Why are you so desperate to stay with an unremorseful, unrepentant cheater? You must think she is the best you can do? You should have seen the red flags and run for the hills, so I don't feel sorry for you at all. Grow a pair and get the marriage annulled. Expose to everybody.

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End it immediately.
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Re: Married for 2 weeks and wife is already cheating (sort of)

Why was it wrong to check her text messages? You were engaged to her and now married. There is no privacy in marriage except when taking a dump. Her phone is yours. Your phone is hers.

With that said, run from this woman before you invest too much. She's a ho. Sorry about that. It happens.
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I think you should forgive her and not talk about it, lest you cast shadows from the past. You should also keep doing the same thing so your marriage will work whenever this happens again.

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Your new wife obviously is not marriage material. She showed you who she was before you married; then two weeks after tying the knot she's doing this again? The ink's not even dry on your marriage license.

What are the chances this won't repeat, after you invest years in the marriage and have children to deal with? Slim and none.

Check with an attorney to see about an annulment. Start the divorce process otherwise.

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LOL, you said cheating "kind of"??????

Dude, that's cheating. And I wish I could bold and supersize the period on that.

You can stay married for a little while until she finds someone she likes better and has more access to your money when she divorces you, or you can get your marriage annulled while you still can. NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT HURTS, annul this "marriage" immediately. Don't think about it, don't delay it, don't do anything but go see a lawyer today and end this farce.

Otherwise, you are doomed. DOOMED. really.
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OP why did you come here.? Dude get out now.! WTF so when it happens again you going to piss that you. You could've been done and over with with the pain. Because let's not be so arrogant and nave to think she'll never do it again come on guy but it comes down to it. She has no respect for you what so ever bottom line. It might be next month, it might be two years, it might be five years, "She will do it again." She's is a broken mess of a woman.! Your wife shows you absolute no respect you going to answer it yourself buddy.
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I'm sorry you are here so soon after being married.

She's either got self-esteem issues & is looking for validation/compliments for other men OR you are her "safe bet" guy.
She may have married you because you're a good guy but you just don't excite her sexually.
If you stay with her except a sexless marriage in a few years.

Listen to the folks here.
Get a divorce or face a miserable time in the future.



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she wanted the wedding, not the marriage
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Sorry you are here my friend.

You should end this marriage because she will never change.

Tell her she can have all those "boyfriends" but you are out.

Best wishes to you. Stay strong.
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Re: Married for 2 weeks and wife is already cheating (sort of)

I stopped reading after the first paragraph. She was sexting and planning meet ups with other dudes a week or two into your marriage?

File for divorce and if relevant seek an annulment immediately.

What advice beyond kicking her out the door do you expect to receive?
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File for annulment. And for god's sake stop having sex with her. If you get her pregnant you are screwed.
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