11-15-2011, 10:43 AM
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Henniker, the only one on Earth
| | Re: Should i or shouldnt i
I think you should stick up for yourself.
A marriage where one person is forgiving and giving and present and the other person has his body half in half out of the marriage and is emotionally split too, which EVEN if he claims that there is no emotional connection to his affair...there is deceit, which by defintion is emotionally split/not 100% present, is not a marriage. It is at best an economic and sexual arrangement, which might make his parenting situation easier.
You can have all of that and your pride and a chance at 100% relationship - with him or someone else or at least with yourself - without doing things 'his way'.
I'd kick him out.
He SAYS he doesn't want to leave, but he's just acting like a jerk. Meaning, he's jerking you around. Why should you be the least little bit worried about what he wants? Really!
You can love someone, but that doesn't mean that they're capable of carrying their part of a relationship. What it does mean is that they haven't learned how because they haven't had the OPPORTUNITY to experience the full consequences of their actions in that relationship. Stinks when you have to parent your partner. Lying should not happen within a household. There is no place for it, ever.