Re: My Husband had a One Night Stand...
Sorry, the first thing you need to do is require him to be tested for STDs before even begining to think about reconcilliation. If you have intimatcy with him since that time you also need to be tested. You need to do this to protect yourself.
Then you can start laying out the process for what YOU want.
He has violated the vows of your marriage, put you are risk and is this the type of person you want to be married to? He needs to really become a man and act like a husband, if he is not willing to take the steps you need to end this Sham of a marriage, not you but how he treats it.