11-18-2011, 07:06 PM
Join Date: Aug 2010
| | Re: no contact letter?
Yes it is a addictive behavior.
If left un addressed it can become a life style.
Check out marriagebuilders.com..its another good site with alot of helpful stuff.
As far as NC letters go, thats a good start, but your chick has to want to change and do the things that will make her a healthier women. You cant control her, it is up to her, to own all of this and take the step to make the perrminate changes in her life that will make her the person she wants to be.
You have nothing to do with her emotional baggage, and until she takes the steps in unloading this baggage you are in for a long haul.
You can't change someone, they can only change them selves.
Just my $0.02
In my case, my wife would have needed 20 NC letters. The guy I caught her with was texted " I want to work on my marriage, I will not be contacting you any more. Please do not try to contact me I will not reply"
As far as all the other guys, she was the one that initiated the contact, so when she stopped calling them they stopped calling her. There were a couple of guys that tried contacting her months after d day but she never responded and they faded away.