Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Wherever I lay my head.
Re: Am I just being too critical because I am so pissed at him?
You are seeing who he is. From this point on, expect to do EVERYTHING on your own.
My ex decided 2 years ago that doing his music was more important than having a job or a home for our daughter to visit him in (he used to have her 1/2 the week for her whole life!). Now she is with me full time (she told him she didn't think he was being a good dad so she would live with me full time), he couch surfs (he's 37), has no money, no car, no job. Do I judge? Nope. My daughter sees who he is the older she gets and she's like, "ew"...I say nothing. She now sees him once maybe every 3 months. When his phone is in service, they text daily.
What I'm saying is, I have seen who he is. I don't judge him...he's creating his own hell ...a hell which he won't realize until he's older, our daughter is older and may not want anything to do with him. Not my problem. i do the best I can for our kid. I don't rely on him for ANYTHING...and it's given me much liberation to just let those expectations go. Take him out of the equation for raising your kids and you will find more peace.
I know it's hard...and you don't want to do this or think this, but...right now it's the reality.
Real women don't want flowers and chocolate.
They want vodka and Taco Bell.