About 2 years ago I suspected my wife of having an affair. I did my best to uncover what was going on at the time but I was never able to figure out the truth. She was definitely being secretive about something but I do not know for sure if she was cheating. I asked at the time but shed denied everything including her behavior which I did not imagine.
It's very possible she did cheat but its also completely possible she was being secretive about something else entirely. Not knowing is driving me crazy. It's been 2 years and I still think about it everyday.
While I would not say our marriage was terrible 2 years ago, it was also not at its best. Currently our relationship is as good as it's ever been. We rarely argue and the intimacy we once had is returning. Because things are improving I'm hesitant to bring this issue up with her. It's possible I was just being insecure and my suspicion could damage our progress. I don't know how to bring this up without both her being upset and me looking weak/insecure. I want to just forget it but it's on my mind daily.
In the past my questioning her has lead to her getting angry so I really don't think I can get any results that way. I've suggested counseling before but she didn't want to go so that's also out.
I feel like I have no options since talking about it is not likely to produce any truths and will most likely result in a fight. Basically I'm left to compartmentalize this but it's a bit draining to constantly asses ones thoughts and actions to make sure I'm not projecting anger/suspicion about this issue.
Any thoughts, just wanted some insight from people who have been here.
It's very possible she did cheat but its also completely possible she was being secretive about something else entirely. Not knowing is driving me crazy. It's been 2 years and I still think about it everyday.
While I would not say our marriage was terrible 2 years ago, it was also not at its best. Currently our relationship is as good as it's ever been. We rarely argue and the intimacy we once had is returning. Because things are improving I'm hesitant to bring this issue up with her. It's possible I was just being insecure and my suspicion could damage our progress. I don't know how to bring this up without both her being upset and me looking weak/insecure. I want to just forget it but it's on my mind daily.
In the past my questioning her has lead to her getting angry so I really don't think I can get any results that way. I've suggested counseling before but she didn't want to go so that's also out.
I feel like I have no options since talking about it is not likely to produce any truths and will most likely result in a fight. Basically I'm left to compartmentalize this but it's a bit draining to constantly asses ones thoughts and actions to make sure I'm not projecting anger/suspicion about this issue.
Any thoughts, just wanted some insight from people who have been here.