Affair with my neighbor

chapparal · 11-23-2011, 01:32 PM

Your family will always think of you on the holidays. Not very long though and the thoughts, well............lets just say they won't be nice.

sigma1299 · 11-23-2011, 01:33 PM

From yet another cheater these folks are telling you the truth. Own what you've done. It's the only dignity you have left.

And in case you didn't know - this is going to hurt no matter what direction you go.
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Halien · 11-23-2011, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Almostrecovered

kinda late for that, isn't it?

My thoughts exactly. If you wanted to get out of this without broken lives, sounds like this question should've come up a very long time ago. I've seen this story replayed here many times. When it starts with " I'm having an affair..." somebody's gonna get burned in a bad way.

chattycathy · 11-23-2011, 02:10 PM

You should have never spent time alone with the neighbor woman. You blew it.
Tell your wife what you have done and see what she has to say.
She might leave you and you will be free to find someone you 'love'.
If she doesn't leave you, you have one heck of a woman. You need to re-examine who she really is. You obviously have no clue who your wife is OR you would never have done that to her.
You DO know who the neighbor woman is....someone who will cross boundaries with men when she is in a 'committed' relationship/marriage. She may look like a great match for you but she is not a very together or real woman. You and the neighbor women are faux romantic fools.

Shaggy · 11-23-2011, 02:19 PM

Coward.

Not only did you betray you wife, but you stole your children's family from them. Oh, and you've ended their ability to be friends with your neightbors kids, and you've help end the neightbors family and marriage.

Way to go big guy.

Now you want to slink off, ditch your wife though divorce without her learning you are cheater. I guess she might figure out what you've done when you hookup with your OW and shack up.

I hope when the OMW finds out - you get some up close and personal feedback on your trashing his marriage.

So what do you want from us? Support for your cowardly cheating? A medal, perhaps sympathy and advice on how to continue being a coward?

Want advice- man the heck up - end the affair - throw yourself at your wife's mercy and spend the rest of your life making it up to her and your kids.

but you won't - because you are just another coward and cheat who thinks they've found true love.

well at least give your kids one last christmas as a part of a family, because it looks like it will be their last forever.

Pit-of-my-stomach · 11-23-2011, 02:33 PM

sorry, your all wasting your breath.

Your talking to someone who is as high as a kite. He's not listening. Even if he's reading all this, its boucing off.

because.... No one understands, its different for them. Everyone will be happy for them when they understand this is true love, it was meant to be. True love conquers all.

My suggestion is that you keep lying, hiding, faking, & betraying everyone until you can be together... Then it's all going to be alright.

lol.

ps. I know nothing I could say could possibly have any impact what so ever on what you crazy kids do... The wheels are in motion and your soaring at 50,000 feet....

But, take a look out the window.... The wings just came off....

Happy landing.

Shaggy · 11-23-2011, 03:22 PM

PIT - you're 100% right.

The OP no doubt is thinking "wow, these TAM people are all so judgmental and vicious. They are mean, don't they understand that I know what I did was wrong, but I'm in love. WHY CAN"T THEY HELP ME AND BE HAPPY FOR ME?"

that_girl · 11-23-2011, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Shaggy

PIT - you're 100% right.

The OP no doubt is thinking "wow, these TAM people are all so judgmental and vicious. They are mean, don't they understand that I know what I did was wrong, but I'm in love. WHY CAN"T THEY HELP ME AND BE HAPPY FOR ME?"

And in a few months, when **** hits the fan, he'll be back saying, "OMG HELP ME! I TOTALLY SCREWED UP! WHAT DO I DO!?"

Almostrecovered · 11-23-2011, 03:36 PM

he hasnt been back to read the replies

Hope1964 · 11-23-2011, 03:44 PM

Do people who post stuff like this really expect that we're going to just answer the question and not tell them what idiots they are??

SadSamIAm · 11-23-2011, 03:50 PM

He is asking an impossible question.

Even if we are OK with the cheating, what possible answer could solve his problem?

Shaggy · 11-23-2011, 03:50 PM

You know folks, if we keep this up - cheaters are gonna start feeling like we don't support them and their happiness.

sigma1299 · 11-23-2011, 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by unhappy1973

Please try to help me figure out though how to best handle this situation without it going so horribly wrong for the innocent parties.

Well unhappy - on the off chance that you make it this far through the thrashing you're getting I went back and re-read your post and thought I'd actually try to offer some constructive advice to this question of yours quoted above.

What you have to understand is that at this point IT IS GOING TO GO HORRIBLY WRONG FOR THE INNOCENT PARTIES - IT ALREADY HAS THEY JUST DON'T KNOW IT!!

So if you know that, all you can do is hope to minimize how horrible horrible is. How do you do this? THE TRUTH. The cold, hard, honest truth - to everyone. Admit what you've done, pay the prices and suffer the consequences. The cheaters who have replied to you - we've all done it. Yeah it sucks but it's the only chicken salad that can be made out of the big pile of chicken sh!t you and your neighbor have made. I know it sounds counter-intuitive, I know it sounds like I'm advising you to go out and cut your appendages off with a dull knife - but it is the only honorable thing left that you can do.

There is no way to avoid the horrible, no way to avoid the plane crash Pit is talking about. All you can do is try to minimize the damage and this is the only way to do it. Rest assured the truth will come out. Even if you and your neighbor call off the affair and swear each other to secrecy forever more. Sooner or later it will come out. The best way for something like this to come out is for the offending parties to throw themselves on the hand grenade of honesty to minimize the blast damage to those around them.

I hope you've made it this far. I hope you do the right thing - for those around you and for you as well.

Therealbrighteyes · 11-23-2011, 04:16 PM

Anybody else notice he used the wording "current marriage" implying there is another one in the future? This guys head is so far up his ass he can smell his own colon.

AppleDucklings · 11-23-2011, 05:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Hope1964

Do people who post stuff like this really expect that we're going to just answer the question and not tell them what idiots they are??

Yes, they really do. They fully expect us to embrace them and tell them that all will be ok. They expect a conversation to go something like this:

SLIMEWEASEL CRAP SACK CHEATER: I'm having an affair on my spouse, I know it's wrong but we are SO in love (note how they always say it's wrong but...)

US: Oh? Yes, it is wrong but it's love you say?

SLIMEWEASEL CRAP SACK CHEATER: Yes, it's love. My spouse doesn't give me any attention, and we've been drifting apart for years now. I love my spouse but I'm not in love and I deserve to be happy (see how it goes from knowing its wrong to blame shifting onto the spouse)

US: You know what. You are so right! How dare your horrid spouse, who we all bet has some sort of foul, repulsive body odor, not give you the attention you deserve. We don't blame you for finding love with someone else. In fact, we all bet that the new love is wonderful and smells lovely too.

SLIMEWEASEL CRAP SACK CHEATER: yes, my lover makes me very happy. They understand me and my spouse doesn't. If my spouse would have only listened to me when I needed them to, then I never would have fallen in love with someone else. They washed my undies with a red sock, now I have to wear pink undies and everyone makes fun of me. It's all my spouse's fault.

US: oh no! Not pink undies! You must divorce your spouse right away and marry your lovely-smelling lover. It is only right! You deserve white undies and someone who smells nice.

SLIMEWEASEL CRAP SACK CHEATER: Thank you for understanding. Yes, my spouse does smell very foul and pink undies make my ass look big, and this is why I can't wear undies when I am with my lover.

US: Awwwww, you poor unfortunate soul. How awful it must be for you to be married to that funky, foul fish who can't even wash laundry. You go be with your lover. It is only right after everything you been though! Oh, and don't worry, your spouse will not only completely understand, but they will give their blessing as well.

Yes, this is crazy and I wrote it that way on purpose. It's crazy because they are crazy! They do fully expect us to be understanding because "it's love"