I think.... sorry, I know.... my wife is a serial EA cheater. During our time together she has had at least four EA. I should have got out, but foolishly I thought she would change. Now she has taken the next step. I found out on Tuesday that she spent a weekend with a man and had a PA.
A brief back ground of our relationship. I found out about (what I presume) was her first EA just before we got married. She was showing me something in her inbox and I noticed A LOT of emails from a man. I asked her to show me some, which at first she wouldn't, but eventually she did, and the emails between her and him were of a sexual nature, and her wishing she was with him.
The next one was with another man off the internet. This one moved onto sexual pictures and phonecalls. The others were exactly the same. Each time she would break down and sob, saying that she wants to stay with me and the kids etc etc.
So maybe this is my fault? Maybe by not throwing her out I have indicated that her behaviour is acceptable?
About six weeks ago my wife said she wanted to get away for the weekend. Things hadn't been brilliant between us, and she said she needed a time out. We bought the train tickets (I paid!) and everything was sorted out. Needless to say, she had been arranging to meet this man and they spent all weekend having sex. She didn't spare a moments thought for our children and I.
That was last weekend. Whilst she was away I got some bad news about my work and as I couldn't get hold of her on the phone, I texted her, hoping for some comfort and a phonecall. All I got was a text saying "Time to look for another job".
I phoned her that evening saying that she was ignoring the kids, and that I thought she was up to something (and I gave her my reasons). She became very vocal, screaming that I never trust her and that she wants a divorce and that she'll keep the kids and throw me out. She swore that nothing was going on blah blah blah. When she got back she was evil incarnate. The things she said and did were so out of character.
On Tuesday morning I was getting ready for work and heard her scrabbling away upstairs. I went up and she quickly shut her wardrobe and went downstairs. A jingle noise came from the cupboard, and lo-and-behold she had a second mobile phone. She had rapidly been switching it off, hence the noise. I switched it back on. There was only one name and number on it. I text the number from my phone, asking if it was such and such, and if they had spent the weekend in [the resort my wife was in]. The reply came back in the affirmative.
I confronted my wife and STILL she denied it. I said fine, I'll text her OM, and she screamed at me that yes she did spend the weekend having sex with that man. I am crushed. In fact, I have spent most of the years we have shared being crushed. She blames me of course. She has built up such a horrible image of me in her mind, and I assume that is how she justifies what she is doing. I now know why her friends and family give me a wide berth. The thing is, I haven't done anything. I genuinely haven't. Even her OM contacted me blaming me, saying that I am the worst type of A-hole! She had told him I am physically abusive. Why would she do this?
Anyway, I am so sorry for the rant. The reason for the title is that she shows no remorse. I haven't been able to sleep all week, and last night she even came downstairs telling me that I'll make myself ill. Make myself ill?!!! No love... it's you making me ill!
I pulled the computer out of the wall, and threw it out when I found out on Tuesday. Childish? Yes, but I wasn't thinking straight. Her latest outburst at me was "How come you can use the internet at work, but I'm not allowed on it?" I simply replied "How come you committed adultery?" Followed by "How come you use the internet purely as a sex hook up tool?"
She has put her wedding ring back on, believe it or not. She insists she will make our marriage work (!). I've heard all these promises before, but never actions. Actions speak volumes. We have four children by the way, and she plays the happy family card, knowing full well that I will give up my life for any of my kids.
Can this woman change? I'm not sure.
Anyway, that's the end of my rant. Sorry if it's jumbled, but I am getting by on less than two hours sleep per night.
A brief back ground of our relationship. I found out about (what I presume) was her first EA just before we got married. She was showing me something in her inbox and I noticed A LOT of emails from a man. I asked her to show me some, which at first she wouldn't, but eventually she did, and the emails between her and him were of a sexual nature, and her wishing she was with him.
The next one was with another man off the internet. This one moved onto sexual pictures and phonecalls. The others were exactly the same. Each time she would break down and sob, saying that she wants to stay with me and the kids etc etc.
So maybe this is my fault? Maybe by not throwing her out I have indicated that her behaviour is acceptable?
About six weeks ago my wife said she wanted to get away for the weekend. Things hadn't been brilliant between us, and she said she needed a time out. We bought the train tickets (I paid!) and everything was sorted out. Needless to say, she had been arranging to meet this man and they spent all weekend having sex. She didn't spare a moments thought for our children and I.
That was last weekend. Whilst she was away I got some bad news about my work and as I couldn't get hold of her on the phone, I texted her, hoping for some comfort and a phonecall. All I got was a text saying "Time to look for another job".
I phoned her that evening saying that she was ignoring the kids, and that I thought she was up to something (and I gave her my reasons). She became very vocal, screaming that I never trust her and that she wants a divorce and that she'll keep the kids and throw me out. She swore that nothing was going on blah blah blah. When she got back she was evil incarnate. The things she said and did were so out of character.
On Tuesday morning I was getting ready for work and heard her scrabbling away upstairs. I went up and she quickly shut her wardrobe and went downstairs. A jingle noise came from the cupboard, and lo-and-behold she had a second mobile phone. She had rapidly been switching it off, hence the noise. I switched it back on. There was only one name and number on it. I text the number from my phone, asking if it was such and such, and if they had spent the weekend in [the resort my wife was in]. The reply came back in the affirmative.
I confronted my wife and STILL she denied it. I said fine, I'll text her OM, and she screamed at me that yes she did spend the weekend having sex with that man. I am crushed. In fact, I have spent most of the years we have shared being crushed. She blames me of course. She has built up such a horrible image of me in her mind, and I assume that is how she justifies what she is doing. I now know why her friends and family give me a wide berth. The thing is, I haven't done anything. I genuinely haven't. Even her OM contacted me blaming me, saying that I am the worst type of A-hole! She had told him I am physically abusive. Why would she do this?
Anyway, I am so sorry for the rant. The reason for the title is that she shows no remorse. I haven't been able to sleep all week, and last night she even came downstairs telling me that I'll make myself ill. Make myself ill?!!! No love... it's you making me ill!
I pulled the computer out of the wall, and threw it out when I found out on Tuesday. Childish? Yes, but I wasn't thinking straight. Her latest outburst at me was "How come you can use the internet at work, but I'm not allowed on it?" I simply replied "How come you committed adultery?" Followed by "How come you use the internet purely as a sex hook up tool?"
She has put her wedding ring back on, believe it or not. She insists she will make our marriage work (!). I've heard all these promises before, but never actions. Actions speak volumes. We have four children by the way, and she plays the happy family card, knowing full well that I will give up my life for any of my kids.
Can this woman change? I'm not sure.
Anyway, that's the end of my rant. Sorry if it's jumbled, but I am getting by on less than two hours sleep per night.