I get that some peoples take is that they are still good people and they just did a bad thing, or they are sick, but that is not my take. I am curious if any other WS actually ended up thinking the way I do that they really were just bad people.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion.As for the propensity here to make sweeping generalizations about any population, please. Come back when you have your dissertation in hand with data sets and analysis backing up your claim about "most" of anything.
In that case your username is really confusing...I am a serial wayward and I don't see myself as a bad person. Based on what I read about serial waywards one would think that I would lie cheat and steal in everything that I do, and even kick puppies, but that isn't the case at all. What I am is a lousy husband if you place any kind of importance on fidelity. But not a bad human being, I know many will disagree.
But you did see yourself as a bad person then you changed, and that is my point. I would think it is the rare person that does. This is why I think for the most part it is a bad idea to R. It takes this level of remorse to actually do the hard work.While I was cheating, my character flaws were made plain. While I was cheating I was dishonest, unkind, angry and a bad person.
WS = wayward (i.e. cheating) spouseWhat is WS?