That's it. I asked her about it directly and she said she has never cheated on me. I mentioned some details that were brought up and she didn't deny going to the bar, but said it was once. Per/Text message conversation I knew it was twice but I didn't divulge that information at the time, and she had trouble looking me in the eye for about 3 minutes. I'm trying to get myself past it what I believe happened. Yesterday I heard on the recording as she was pulling out of her parking spot at work she nailed a curb with her front bumper. She cursed herself for it pretty good, and I brought it up this morning after seeing it as we were leaving (it's very noticeable damage) and she played it off like she didn't know what happened, she "must" have hit something. I decided not to give her a hard time about it. I just don't know where to be with this relationship anymore. After a lengthy conversation the other night I feel like we got to a better place, but caught her in another lie. I made it a point to give her a hard time about where she spent some money to get her to hopefully talk in her car and it worked. I cannot make out the conversation in full because of engine noise and the radio was on, but I got the gist of her complaining really hard about me giving her a hard time about it to someone. She told me that night that I'm the only person she has to talk to about these relationship problems. Another lie. I've never had a reason to not trust her until recently. I want to believe it's just coincidence. But.. she keeps lying. I'm going on a guys trip in 2 weeks out of town for 3 nights, she wont have the kids 2 of them. I decided to keep the real time GPS tracking on her car during that time to see what transpires and will go from there. It's making me sick to my stomach...
Confronting a possible cheater without any evidence is breaking rule number one. Successfully doing so is so rare as to being nonexistent.
Now you are several steps behind. If it turns out she hasn't cheated, its not your fault she has been acting squirrelly and lying to your face.
There are many possible signs to cheating. New lingerie you never see her wearing, immediately showering when she comes home, new personal grooming down below, more or less sex with you than normal, new sexual techniques, shopping without buying things, working late, going to work early, lying about where she's been, angry when asked about it, new interests in music, dressing up more, more make up, new hair style, working out, losing weight, working out, hiding phone/device screens, sleeping with phone taking it everywhere even while taking a bath, etc.
Her phone connection with your child's Ipad may be promising. are the connected with the cloud?
Pretend you believe everything she has said and investigate, its your duty.