Beowolf, you are another one that has been helping me, maybe not as drastic messures like Jellybeans, you havnt Cyber smacked me, YET
But your rite, it would be a huge lose if Jellybeans left, the thing is I never intentially gave her "crap" not on a level that I realized I was, but she wasnt taking my stupid remarks and patting me on the back either saying it will be ok... She more liked, shook the crap out of me and said WAKE-UP.. I may had not understood then, I may had felt like WHY is jellybeans so hard on me I didnt cheat my WS did.. But NOW I do.... and I am glad she took the whip out on me or I may had not listened.. Honestly, if I would had gotten the pat on the back and the "poor baby" speech, I really think that to this day, I would still be a DOORMATE....
I am still far far far away, but you just posted to me about steps to take now that my true R has began.. And I gotta a feeling Ill be back on asking more and more questions.. I do not want to be like I was before, and I dont want to save my marriage unless it is a real marital recovery.. So the only way that I feel that could happen honestly is to come to the people who helped me to stop being walked all over in the first place.. Thanks to All
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