Guess I'm joining here too

blueskies30 · 12-01-2011, 05:05 PM

Well I guess I'm joining this section too.

I recently found out on Tuesday that a girl misses my husband and hopes to see him soon. I saw it on his FB page. I asked him about it last night and he says he sees her once a week for lunch. She misses him because they talk a lot. He talks to her because she is easy to talk too. I asked him if she knows about me, knows that he is working on reconsilation, asked who she is. he didn't answer me on who she is, said she knows of me and knows he is working on reconsilation. So I had the whole nihgt to think about it.

So this morning I told him if she had his best interest she would not post on his wall that she misses him and hopes to see him soon. She would know that his wife would see that.

I messaged her through FB right away when I saw the comment. I told her I was his wife and why does she mis my husband.

She didn't answer me and now has changed her FB to not allow non-friends to message her.

I have access to her account so if I want to I can message her though him.

I also have copied and pasted 2 other FB message threads that he sent to 2 other people. One person 2 years ago when he joined FB and one on Nov 12th. The threads all ended after phone numbers were exchanged.

Also about 3 years ago I found that he was calling a girl on his way home from work daily, talking to her for a reqally long time. He has an hour and half drive. He would get home late from work and be unreachable by phone. He would call me when he got off work and be very short, then if I called him back he would be on the phone. I confronted him about this when I found out from looking in his phone. He said she was going through a divorce and he was tqlking to her about his marriage to me. She worked at a restraourant he would go by himself too. We used to go together until he started making up excuses that he was just there and didn't feel like thre again. The restraurant is Buffalo WildWings, so its a sports bar type he goes to and watched wrestling.

I am going to make a timeline about all this stuff tonihgt. We are going to counseling tomorrow. He wants answers to what I have done. Yes I did have a emotioanl affiar and I felt so guilty for it and now it seems like I didn't even do much because look at what he has done for so long. And he is still lokoing to hook up right now!!!

He is planning our future together but never admitted to all these affairs. I don't know how far they went, but because they were all secret....it doesn't matter how far or not far they went...he did it behind my back...

I was availabel to him....I offered him sex all the time...He said he was too tired and never in the mood.....

deejov · 12-01-2011, 05:15 PM

Dumb a$$. Delete!! Guess he doesn't even know how to cover his tracks, does he?

Sorry you are here, the hurt and disbelief at being deceived isn't something I would wish upon anyone.

blueskies30 · 12-01-2011, 05:36 PM

Yes he doesn't know how to delete,ha ha!!!

Now I'm going to start asking him about girls by name....Ha he started this by being foolish and fooling around while he was trying to reconsile with me and she posted on his wall!!!

Hes the one who wanted to go to marriage counseling. Now we are going tomorrow and I will go with evidence. he can ask me all he wants about what I did.

Hope1964 · 12-01-2011, 05:37 PM

I too am so sorry you're here. It really does suck.