So now even though 4 months have gone by I should now ask her for access to her facebook and phones? I'm sure her response will be something like, "Why do you need to see them now?" Because she has assured me there has been nothing going on since late June.
Honestly, she doesn't seem to have been willing to do much at all considering what she did rightfully should end her marriage in divorce.
See when she cheated she broke the marriage contract and your trust in her. It's ended, the marrage she was in ended as well.
Now it is up to her to do what is needed to get you to accept her back to build a new and different marriage.
First thing: she no longer has a right to be trusted. At ths point she has to re-earn your trust. Don't lie to her, don't sugar coat it,. You do not trust her, because she has shown through her actions and adult choices that she can and will break her promises to you. Trust means you can't believe she is not lying and she won't break her promises. She did both.
Second: you, the betrayed spouse have the right to check up on her and to question things that do not feel right to you.
Third: you,the betrayed spouse will bring up the affair, and ask any question you like at any time. You are not accepting limitations or restrictions. You are not negotiating to get the truth, you are demanding and accepting nothing less than the truth.
Now, I wouldn't believe her for a minute on anything she tells you about the OM. Find out fir yourself who he is, and if he is married or has a gf. Then contact the wife or gf.
Her answer of why,is a bull**** fluff non answer. Why did she think it was ok when she did it? Why does she think you shouldn't divorce her now?
Also, other than saying she feels guilty, what changes has she made? What consequences has she faced? Posted via Mobile Device