Re: So upset...please help
For what it's worth, when my wife and I started on R she felt the same way. I asked her why she wasn't being affectionate towards me and she said that, really, it felt false.
I gently reminded her that the reason is due to the fact she never paid me attention or gave affection before - the exact same reason she used for her affair - and wasn't used to it.
She went quiet as the statement sank in.
I haven't really thought about the future that much, but when I die I think I'll go back to doing whatever I was doing for the fifteen billion years before I was born.