I just wanted to drop a quick update. I have requested a consultation with an Attorney, that is now moving forward. I've also gone cold and indifferent to my WW over the past few days, and she has noticed. Hit me today with that she thinks it would be best if she moved out. My response was simply "if that is what you want to do", she did not like that at all. She then said she had to find a way to accommodate the kids.... oh no no no, the kids stay here, they will sleep in their own beds. You can go, but they are staying here. Fear set in and she quickly backtracked on it. Have to wait and see where this goes tonight when she gets home from work.
So far, and I may have missed it and I apologize, I am guessing that she does not know you have proof she is still cheating?? So are these 20 questions she is trying to make you play in her mind questions about the past while she is still in the affair???
Just do not let what you are perceiving as "fear" allow you to let your guard down. Many times when they do get fear, the will try to manipulate you through sex or claiming they really want to reconcile and try to lure you to therapy.
You have done this drill before, and not only did she cheat again but in your house with your kids around. Amazes me how brazen they can be and think you are stupid enough to tolerate that. Especially with the history.
I would still do everything you can to get her out of there and you MUST have a VAR on you when you interact with her. A fake DV claim is not out of the question here. Do not take any chances.
You mentioned a trip to OM's house. Do not do that without a witness. The last thin g you need is a police charge in case he is around when you try to tell the wife. I would show up at her work since you know where that is and OM will not be there.
Now brace yourself for more bull **** tonight. Her and her boyfriend are probabyl spending the day planning what they are going to do and don't be surprised if he is helping her with legal advice.