Re: Wife still cheating. I just filed for D
I would explain to her that you have no intention of ever being her enemy, but reiterate that the only discussions you care to have with her involve the kids. Deliver this with no emotion, no hostility, no tears. But poolitely inform her that there will be legal consequences if she introduces the children to her boyfriend at this point, or if she slanders you in any way to the children or family members. Tell her that you do not intend to spend Christmas with her, and that you expect to have the kids from X o'clock to Y o'clock. She will have them when they're not with you, but the other man will not be present when she has them.
I would not offer any more chances at reconciliation, even if it's something you'd still consider. When speaking with her, you should treat her as if the marriage is entirely over already. Do not entertain any more manipulation from her, or her attempts to keep one foot in the door. If she starts to talk about reconciliation, you should wait until the point where she is begging and then lay out very strict conditions which we will give you here. If the conversations become emotional, tell her to put it in writing so that you not get reeled into some tearful discussion where you confess your undying love for her, or otherwise say something you'll later regret. The more she's able to reel you, the farther away she'll get from reconciliation, ironically.
Remove half of the money in all accounts and put it in an account in your name only. Do all of this without informing her. Redirect your employer's direct deposit to the new accounts.
You should expose to as many people as possible, including her father. Do it politely without name-calling or otherwise denigrating her. Make sure he understands that you've been faithful to her for every day of your marriage. Tell her Dad that you regret he will no longer be a part of your life, but that you hope you and he will stay in touch.
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