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post #376 of 383 (permalink) Old Yesterday, 11:37 AM
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Re: Wife still cheating. I just filed for D

She's pissed that you're not "fighting for her".

Because wake up, that's what you're supposed to do.

And since you're not feeding her those tasty ego kibbles, she's not getting her fix.

Typical BSC WW.


Virginia: "Why can't you kids leave well enough alone? Everything was fine until you started digging around."

Burt: "You sound like a Scooby Doo villain."
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When the shoe is on the other foot it doesn't feel so good.

Poor muffin.

Silence is golden
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Since the last time I told WW to only contact me regarding the children, she stopped texting about getting back together and stopped bothering me. This lasted about a week.

While trying to Skype with the kids the other night, WW took the phone and started arguing with me about my female friend whose kids play with my kids. WW insists we are dating, but we actually aren't. Finally I told her I wasn't going to argue and told her bye. She called right back immediately and I ignored it and then she texted a bunch.

Soon after that, she ended up texting my friend and telling her I have been going around saying she isn't really my girlfriend and that we are just friends. She also sent her screen shots of my texts where I was saying we aren't dating. Of course the lady didn't mind, because we are really just friends. But WW also was trying to argue with her and being mean. My friend didn't respond to WW and we had a good laugh about it.

So far now it has been 2 days and WW has been quiet.

Not sure why she would care if I was actually dating, since her and OM are actively dating.
By now... this should not surprise you at all. Let's see.... give her until Wednesday.

She will blow up about who gets the kids for Easter. She can milk that reason for a few weeks.

She had control over you, or she thought she did. Now she knows she has lost it. As Marx stated,

no one gives up power willingly. How similar are these temper tantrums to how she would

act if she could not get her way when you were M? It's somewhat hilarious when we see

a WS, who became a WS how....., get livid when they discover the BS is.... dating.

NOT in exclusive relationship, NOT in dating same person seeking exclusive, NOT even simple FWB...

just.... dating. The WS honestly considers that.... cheating! Give her about a week and she will

inform you how unappreciated she feels, how you neglect her emotionally.

Say nothing. Send her two logs, one half size of other, four ropes, box of nails, hammer.

So the next time she feels emotionally neglected or unappreciated she can erect a cross

and nail herself to it.

A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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Last communication we had yesterday was of her yelling and trying to argue with me and getting furious because I remained calm and wouldn't indulge her.

Today she texts me out of the blue, asking how to clean our 6 year old's turtle tank. I replied "just rinse it out real well". That was it. No response from her. Later that night she helped the kids call me on Skype and was being nice and laughing and playing like she wasn't a lunatic just 24 hours earlier.
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Last communication we had yesterday was of her yelling and trying to argue with me and getting furious because I remained calm and wouldn't indulge her.

Today she texts me out of the blue, asking how to clean our 6 year old's turtle tank. I replied "just rinse it out real well". That was it. No response from her. Later that night she helped the kids call me on Skype and was being nice and laughing and playing like she wasn't a lunatic just 24 hours earlier.
No shock from what I have seen here since Nov. '12. You are handling this exactly as I did.

Whiny, bytchy, enraged messages go unanswered. Polite ones, respond to. I had a three day wait

before opening my STBXWs emails. Now if we had kids, open immediately but, if not

truly about kid (I raised her son as mine), as in kid needs band aid followed by three paragraphs

of her rants, ignore. She WILL use the kids to get to you, bet the farm. Bet mine too while you're

at it. Then she will attempt to vagina trap you. AKA showing up at 1AM in trench coat, nothing under,

in tears wondering where you two's love went. Y'know... like the old hair band love ballads from

25-30 years ago. The vagina trap is her very last resort. After that.... she will only use you as a

de facto H until she snares another and M him. Be patient.... like pneumonia, she will eventually

"go away." You're progressing very well. I just hope you stick around here and give advice to newbys

when they come. Same reason I'm still here....

A-Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
B-We know what we are, but know not what we may be
C-Never make the person in your present pay for the sins committed by people from your past
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Not sure why she would care if I was actually dating, since her and OM are actively dating.
She doesn't care.

This, like the affair has nothing to do with you. It's all about her.

Look she finally got her dream, she's with the OM surely that would be that right, she'd leave you the f*ck alone and enjoy herself right? Two love birds in their little bubble you don't really care about what's going on in the outside world.

All this drama, the effort taken in texting or skyping, she no longer has two men fighting for her. Suddenly she's with a cheater and everything is not so secure, but quite frankly she's also a bit of an a**hole. She gets her ego stroking from kicking you in the nuts.

They say the best revenge is a living a happy life. Go get it!
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Last communication we had yesterday was of her yelling and trying to argue with me and getting furious because I remained calm and wouldn't indulge her.

Today she texts me out of the blue, asking how to clean our 6 year old's turtle tank. I replied "just rinse it out real well". That was it. No response from her. Later that night she helped the kids call me on Skype and was being nice and laughing and playing like she wasn't a lunatic just 24 hours earlier.
Why would this require a response?
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Forward her texts asking you to take her back to her boyfriend and ask him why he can't take care of her needs. Tell him you do not date or go out with cheaters....... for any reason.
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