I have talked to quite a few women on POF recently. It's a good confidence booster. But it is amazing how every divorced woman on there was cheated on by her husband. I have yet to meet one yet that admits to cheating herself. Something tells me they may be lying.
I have told WW at least twice over the past few months that I am done for good. But she probably believes that since I haven't said it in a couple months but have just been ignoring instead, that there is still hope.
And I doubt she is pregnant. OM has been fixed (it's a shame that I know that), and also the weight is distributed differently than it was when she was pregnant with both kids.
And her affair seems to have been a little different from the standard. She has dumped OM several times before the separation and fought a bunch. They fought like a married couple before Dday and after. So there is no telling what this crazy b$tch is going to do over the next year or the rest of oir lives for that matter.
Of course those *****es do admit to it...they did no wrong...everything has been justified by their idiot best friends with statements like the following; "he was such an *******, and he's a piece of ****, you didn't deserve him treating you so badly! You gave, and gave and gave and never got **** in return...poor you, poor you...blah," and if not that exact phrase, ones disgustingly close to it. My husband and I got married in Jan 2011, I was 23, him 24. In March of 2011 he got his 4th DUI, and in CA that's a felony, with minimum 12 months of jail time, and that's NOT getting pulled over my police officer for suspicion of DUI, he DID NOT get into an accident. My husband was followed by this person who called and reported a drunk driver, despite her openly admitting she never saw him take a drink of anything at any time during her following him. Her statement said his driving patterns were not consistent, and his vehicle seemed like it was having a hard time keeping control, she said the 2 lane hwy they were traveling down had cement dividers in each side of the road due to the city widening that particular area, and the road was not as smooth as it had been in recent months. She followed him to an auto zone where he successfully, and with zero problems backed into a parking spot between 2 other vehicles, both were full size pickup trucks. My husbands truck was a 94 lifted f150, I couldn't even have made that parking spot as well as he did, even the arresting officer complemented on his park job. None of that matters,what matters is he still had alcohol in his system...you don't have to be at the legal limit of .08, you can be way below that....it's at the officers discretion and whether or not he feels you are capable of operating your vehicle to your destination safely...without being a threat to public safety....there's no way an officer would let anyone continue driving the vehicle if they pulled them over for dui suspicion, they wouldn't be doing their job...anyways, my husband was convicted in November 2012, they took him into custody right then, chose not to sentence him until January 2013, with 12 months in county jail, since they're more than triple their capacity, he got ˝ time, only have to serve 6 months in county. 4 months in to his, actually 7 month, sentence I cheated on my husband with a guy he had been friends with before I even met my husband, it was one time, not reacurring relationship, nothing of that sort, all that aside, break it to its rawest form, he "situation" lasted maybe a full 10 mins and that's due to me putting a stop to it midway, I immediately left, and went home...I was completely sober at the time....I had nothing to blame other than myself for my terrible judgement, as well as being incredibly selfish...i wasn't thinking of him, I was simply thinking of what I wanted, what I thought I needed. I was so angry with my husband for putting us in that situation, voluntarily, and not even a full 2 months after we got married. We don't have any kids, so i was alone just thinking all this negative **** all day, all night like a broken record playing a circus themed tune...just round and round, thinking "why? Why would he even take that chance after knowing what could happen to him, to us! Did he decide I'm not worth it? Did he decide he'd rather taking the Russian Roulette chance of loosing me? Does he really love me as much as he's led me to believe?" Before he went to jail I made multiple attempts to talk to him about how I felt we needed to make sure we were on the same level and that I didn't need anywhere near his full attention, but I didn't need a little, we knew he was going to go to jail, had time to prepare financially, as much as one can, had enough time to make sure him and I were seeing eye to eye. I told him i didn't want him to be sitting in jail regretting not spending time with me before going in, I didn't want him to have that on his mind while in there, because it'd make him go crazy as well as him writing letters and saying things he wouldn't normally say, over compensating for not taking it seriously before he went to jail, which in turn just annoy and irritate me and then things would snowball from there...my attempts on wanting to do the preventative maintenance on our just barely 2 year old marriage got shut down everytime I brought the subject up, so I just took it as his way of managing the insane levels of stress we were both under. I decided to stop pestering him about it it all. Tried to help him have his last few weeks out as stress-free as possible. As soon as he was in jail, everything that I said was going to happen, happened. We saved no $, none at all. The gas light was on in my car when I left the courthouse the day he was taking into custody. I had to borrow $ from his grandparent's to get home. As well as break it to his grandparent's that the took him into custody. I had never been depressed before that time. No family history of depression. I was so upset and felt abandoned, shoved aside for the couple of beers that were worth him taking a chance on being put in jail as well and him choosing to take a chance on loosing e while he was in jail. There's always that chance, even if you're in the perfect relationship, you go to jail, leave your woman alone, wit her thoughts and not once taking the initiative to stash some money aside to make sure Id be financially set while he was gone. One less thing for him to worry about, or that's how I looked at it. My husband got out may 30, 2013, be had a suspension something went on , never had any proof. He sits me down after being out of jail for roughly a week, and tells me that was my 1 chance to come clean about ANYTHING I felt i needed to admit to doing while he was gone. I lied and said there was nothing. Fast forward to January 2017, a week before our anniversary he tells me we need to have a serious talk either right then or within the next couple days. And that it was very important. I said "ok, anytime, just left me know when your comfortable having this talk" unaware of what he was about to say to me.....he said he wanted a divorce being he felt we were going to get one eventually, we needed to just get it done and out of the way ASAP to save us both time. And he was looking out for what was best for me , and he didn't want waste any of my time, like I'm some high powered CEO who literally has no time for anyone. All I have is time...I was doing the stay at home house wife thing, I was more involved with his 5 yr old daughter and got along better with HER mother than my husband did lol well fast forward to about late Feb-early March we had gotten into one of the many arguments we have had in the past couple months and he decides to tell me that he's giving me one last chance to come clean about anything that may or may not of happened when he was in jail. I decided to come clean, despite my original plans of never telling him something that I know is going to break his heart and completely rip up apart. He told me if i came clean he'd legitimately try to work it out and we could give our relationship a second shot. I took that opportunity to come clean like he requested, assuming he was going to keep up his end of the deal. Well, he tricked me. He had no intentions of working it out at that time, he just wanted to have personal justification as to why he was filing Divorce papers a week later. We still live together, we have 2 dogs that's are practically our children, 2 cats. We don't own our home, we have been Renting a house from his relative. He own our 3 vehicles. And have no debt at all. But i have no job, no vocational school training, so college degree, no money and no where else I can legitimately move to. I have never been close to my mother, who lives only 2 miles away. I refuse to become a burden to anyone in my family, and ask if I can move in with any of them without having a job, or money, as well the 2 cats I'd be bringing with me. He knows I have no where to go. We still sleep in the same ****ing bed! We just had amazing sex last night and the night before! AND yesterday was one of his days off, and he spent it with me, all day. He also spent the night prior with me...at our home!? I'm so confused because for the passed month or so he's been staying at different friends houses, then coming home to get clean clothes for work, and spending the least amount of time around me or the house as possible. I don't ask him where's he's been, or what he's doing or when he's coming home.. not a damn thing. I don't text or call him unless it was urgent, Even then I continue to quickly tell him the news and hang up. I've been noticing it's catching his attention and he wants to know what I am doing, and what is my attention focused on since it's not on him. Little does he know, I do his laundry, way more than he realizes, and clean up the yard outside. I guess my initial question is am I crazy for thinking he still loves me, and I feel like he truely wants to stay with me but feel like he has an image to uphold. Like I'm being made an example of? But not quite. I know he still loves me. We are too finely tuned to each other's wants, needs and thought process to not know exactly what the other is feeling and thinking.
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