WW has been texting for 2 weeks trying to get me to come home. I've been ignoring it all. She said she told OM she didn't want to be with him and wanted to be with me instead. I continued to ignore and she finally slacked off the past 2 days. Last night she texted so I told her to stop texting forever unless it involves the kids.
She wrote an angry response saying I just pretended to care for her before I filed for divorce, so I would look like the good guy (whatever that means). So I wrote back that I filed for divorce because I was tired of her lies and I'm tired of hearing her lies everyday still even though we are separated.
So she responded this morning that she hasn't lied. She said "I told OM I wanted to be with you and not him. You are my first choice but I know now you are never coming back and I'm okay with that. And since I can't have you I talked to OM. If I'm not with you im going to be with him."
So I ignored that and she sent some more texts about the kids. I answered those and she said "bye".
Is there any chance this could be the end of it and she will finally stop bothering me? Or will it be right back to her begging me to come home next time they fight or she feels like a bad mother? How long do most waywards like her keep up with bugging the BS like that?
HE dumped HER and now she is in damage control. STOP engaging her, it is what she wants damnit.
A liar never tells a lie, you know that right? She is not OK with not getting you back, hence text madness.
She is an insecure and low self esteem person who is verbally putting her needs above the family
and for her to say that knowing you don't want her back, says everything about her character, or
"lack of." Tell her to take "sloppy seconds," and if this is the norm, you will have to deal with this
for a LOT longer than you think. Get a co-parenting app where you don't have to listen to this sheet.
She wants to tear you down to where you will, eventually, take her back. She is in this for the
long-game, trust me. She wants that emotional connection she had with you at one time, then
"thought" she had with POSOM, now he is out the door so she chose you. Did she "choose" you or were you
her "only" option? Have a family go-between to handle the BS texts or set up the co-parent app.
Hopefully some posters can give you links to them, I'm not a parent. She sets you up with kids needs
and turns it into an anger dump / fishing lure. It's not rocket science.
You can tell her to F the he!! off, burn in he!!, call her the C word or the B word and she will
NOT let up. She wants her Jesus Christ, her savior, her Mr. Fixer, her Mr. Nice Guy to save her
sorry arse. So yelling we are through ain't gonna help ya much. She refuses to believe and
is re-writing history and blameshifting. Cut off her avenues of communication, you cut off the
snake's head. Or you could....... being I am a sociopath when you cut me.... send her this
"I am ecstatic in the fact you and POSOM are going to try again. I wish you nothing but the
happiness you both so richly deserve." Send that when you have the kids.... and turn your
phone off for about three days LOL
This will NOT end until you choose it to end Collin