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post #106 of 582 (permalink) Old 11-28-2016, 03:51 PM
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Re: Wife still cheating. I just filed for D

"If you didn't want a divorce you'd have a) stopped cheating and b) fully recommitted yourself to your marriage and family when given the chance to reconcile.

Given that you did neither of those things, I'm left with the realization that you DO want to divorce.

The good news there is that we're on the same page."

As for the the rest... LOL.

Wayward logic is hilarious.


Virginia: "Why can't you kids leave well enough alone? Everything was fine until you started digging around."

Burt: "You sound like a Scooby Doo villain."

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She texted to ask which day I filed for Divorce. I said "last week. Now I don't want to be mean, but I can't communicate with you. Respect my wishes. I don't want to block your number in case of the kids."

She said "what if I don't want a divorce? OK. I won't talk to you."

Then she sent a bunch of texts about how I didn't listen to figure out her needs and how to meet them and I never wanted to talk and communicate about fixing it. I reminded her that I tried very many times. She said I didn't though. And I just quit responding.

For a minute when she said she didn't want a divorce, a felt bad for her and almost kind of wanted to talk more. But when she got mad and said all that about meeting her needs, all of that went away and I am glad again that I don't have to go home to that.

I think I'm going to have to block her. I can tell her anger is going to progress until she tryst to hurt me bad in some way.
You are saying far too many words to her.

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post #108 of 582 (permalink) Old 11-28-2016, 04:01 PM Thread Starter
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Dang. I can't find how to block a number on my new phone. She is sending non stop texts about how the affair was my fault and I should have tried harder so she would have been able to end the affair. Also said I shouldn't tell people the affair was going on over a year because they weren't sleeping together all that time but just talking.

I'm trying to search on the Internet how to block her number but I can't find anything.
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Dang. I can't find how to block a number on my new phone. She is sending non stop texts about how the affair was my fault and I should have tried harder so she would have been able to end the affair. Also said I shouldn't tell people the affair was going on over a year because they weren't sleeping together all that time but just talking.

I'm trying to search on the Internet how to block her number but I can't find anything.
Self control and focus works as an effective tool to block her texts...or at least not respond to them. Ignore them. Pay them no attention.. If nothing else, put your phone down on the counter, and go out for a few hours and do something you enjoy...like back in the olden days when phones were attached to the walls not hands...

"Let's never stop having sex. We're so good at it, we OWE it to sex to never stop having it."
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Does she have a mother or sister or dad around? Just keep forwarding her texts to them. Every time she texts you about non-kid-related stuff, forward it on. Without a word.
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Dang. I can't find how to block a number on my new phone. She is sending non stop texts about how the affair was my fault and I should have tried harder so she would have been able to end the affair. Also said I shouldn't tell people the affair was going on over a year because they weren't sleeping together all that time but just talking.

I'm trying to search on the Internet how to block her number but I can't find anything.
Set a custom -- and silent -- ringtone for her.

The only reply that needs to be sent to her diatribe is...

"LOL. Nope."

Virginia: "Why can't you kids leave well enough alone? Everything was fine until you started digging around."

Burt: "You sound like a Scooby Doo villain."
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Soccermom. Ouch on your bro in law. Sorry.

OP: I see no big strategy errors in your first post. In the long run, things WILL work out. Time healing cant be faked.

Old posters Whyeme and BFF healed nicely and went on with their lives, doing very well.
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Dang. I can't find how to block a number on my new phone. She is sending non stop texts about how the affair was my fault and I should have tried harder so she would have been able to end the affair. Also said I shouldn't tell people the affair was going on over a year because they weren't sleeping together all that time but just talking.

I'm trying to search on the Internet how to block her number but I can't find anything.
DONT ask her this (implied threat would get ugly) but I so want to ask her if you were a wife beater if she should have ducked better to discourage you from trying to hit her.

There were talking. After sex.
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Your WW is texting like a madwoman because you have her running scared. She's scared to death of losing her good reputation and esteem with her family and friends. She's trying to get you to cave, so she blames you for her bad behavior. Don't take the bait. If you cannot exert self control, then delete the unread texts as they come in.
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You are saying far too many words to her.


STOP. TALKING. NOW.

Unless the house is on fire or the kids are sick or injured.

Seriously, go dark. She is just trying to reel you back in. And you're letting her by answering her texts.


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Your in control of you now. She is realizing she is no longer in control. Its a painful experience for anyone to feel. She will use anything and everything to put you back under her thumb. I personally would just call the wireless company and ask for help on blocking her number. I would also contact your lawyer and discuss a restraining order against her. You don't have to act on it but its best you make some kind of record of it. Realize at some point in time she is going to turn this from please come back to hate towards you and try to turn it all on you. The more you have documented the better off you are. I am really sorry your going through this but it is good your working on protecting yourself now. I went through this in 2007. I kicked her out and she ran straight to the OM. It hurt like hell just how quickly and easily I was replaced. One thing I learned is a house is built on a solid foundation. My xW is still a horrible person. She rarely seen our children. I have had to take her to court over child support more times than I care to count. She had four more kids three with the other man but the last one is questionable that it is his and the fourth is with a guy she ran off with. He then beat her nearly to death and now she is shacked up with her ex and her new boyfriend.

Cheaters are wrecks waiting for a place to happen. So few of them actually change its like seeing a Unicorn. Your better off getting this divorce and focusing on having a great relationship with your children. The longer they see there dad healthy the better off they will be.

Good for you for taking a stand.

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I was thinking of sleeping with OM's separated wife. I know that was a big concern with OM and WW. We have been communicating a lot here and there and I am sure she would do it for revenge. But she scares me because she keeps wanting to do some hardcore borderline illegal revenge. Plus I don't even feel like having sex at the moment.

I really feel like I want my house and family more than I want my wife. I'm sure that will change within 12 hours though and I will want to call and beg.
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Do you value yourself so little?

WW is going to have it rough tonight. She has to get off work and go straight to pick up kids and take care of them on a school night. I expect she will try to con her mother into helping out a bunch.

She fired you!!!! Let her lie in her own bed she made.
Cmon man!
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Dang. I can't find how to block a number on my new phone. She is sending non stop texts about how the affair was my fault and I should have tried harder so she would have been able to end the affair. Also said I shouldn't tell people the affair was going on over a year because they weren't sleeping together all that time but just talking.

I'm trying to search on the Internet how to block her number but I can't find anything.
Poor muffin. Reality hits.
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keep a recorder on you to protect yourself from any claims she comes up with about abuse.

She is your enemy and has declared war on you.
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