12-05-2011, 12:23 PM
Join Date: Nov 2011
| | Question for EA sufferers
I have a probably stupid question, but it has come up in my mind and I can't let it go.
My wife and I have been married over ten years. We have a great relationship (i.e. read there are always things to work on), and I have no reason to suspect that she is having or has had an affair. But her sexual history always comes back to my mind.
Basically, before we got married she had a lot of casual sex with a number of different partners. I have never been this type of person, though I have had casual sex, it didn't do much for me. She also had some long-term (1-2 year) boyfriends, but obviously those ended and we got married. But it always bothered me that she kissed someone (while in Europe, so maybe she gets a pass!) while with her ex and, when we were getting together she also did the same while we were in NYC (I was with some friends). Both times it involved a male at a bar, and while when it happened to me we weren't "officially" together, it bothered me nonetheless.
I always thought that I felt intimidated by her sexual history, but lately I realize that it's more that I feel that I can't trust her, that she is drawn to that lifestyle and sometime, maybe sooner maybe later, she will stray and I will be forced to leave her.
EA sufferers, call me a fool, tell me to confront her, whatever. Just wondering what people see as a correlation between casual sex and cheating.