Hi everyone, following HerToo's suggestion I decided to cross post my request for a book suggestion in the Going Through Divorce or Separation forum here, in hopes of getting more replies.
Yeah. I mean, if my marriage goes south for good I will hold each and every one of you responsible for that. Not me, not my wife or and not the OM! You!
Best one I read was Susan Anderson's " The Journey from Abandonment to Healing". It really talkd a lot about the brain chemistry that is affected by infidelity. made a lot of sense.
She also talked a lot about how infidelity affects folks to varying degrees, depending on their childhoods.
Hmmm... I've been thinking about buying this book but it seems that one of the author's tenets is that ultimately both spouses are guilty of the betrayal! It is true that both are probably to blame for the marriage eroding, but when it does, it erodes for both. The fact that only one of the spouses decides to act in such a disrespectful way towards the other in face of said erosion can only be blamed of the WS.
So, I may give this one a miss.
Unfortunately, it seems that between yesterday and today "NOT just friends" became unavailable for the Kindle. Bummer.
"Love Must Be Tough" by James Dobson was suggested to me. I ordered it but haven't received it yet. I'll let you know if it's helpful to me. Posted via Mobile Device
No, I don't recall Abram Spring laying responsibility on the BS. Read it a long time ago , and it is good. Same with her second one "How Do I Forgive You". It is good and does not preach that forgiveness is always for the best.
Read the NPD and BPD stuff, too, if you feel your cheater is personality disordered. Many are, IMO.
There is no one specific issue, but varable issues addressed, Granted there are things that were not the case for me personaly, but it offered some insite when I had none at the time.
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