Re: It's a VERY fresh wound and it HURTS
He has to have everything his way. He says it was a 'good night.' Good for whom? Him, of course.
I think you should follow the 180 instructions and detach emotionally from him. If you don't care what he does or says anymore, you won't be driven crazy by his lack of...well, everything.
He's a serial cheater who thinks he can talk you around until you are pacified again. At which point he'll be free to pick up where he left off with his fun on the side.
Here's a story about a serial cheater who was here on TAM for a bit:
He was a relentless cheater who nonetheless married a woman to have a family with. He never had any intention of staying faithful. After many years of constant cheating (it's a way of life, after all), he actually had some pangs of conscience and decided to confess to his wife, which he did - years and years of constant cheating; so many OW's he couldn't even count them.
She divorced him and he lost his family that he said he really loved. Through all this he said his wife was the love of his life.
And in a rare moment of honesty, when asked at the time how his wife reacted to his confession, he said:
"She had more courage than I ever thought she had. I had pulled the wool over her eyes for years and was convinced I could do it again once things died down after I confessed. She was smarter than I gave her credit for, though."
Your WH is assuming he can pull the wool over your eyes again and will restart his cheating activities as soon as things 'die down' at home. He's complacent and counting on your swallowing this latest transgression.
Please do the 180 and stay resolved to D him. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Please don't waste any more of your fabulous, valuable life with a man who simply doesn't value you.
He's a manchild who needs help, but you're not obliged to save him. Save yourself and your kids. You're the important ones.