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post #271 of 285 (permalink) Old 04-10-2017, 12:00 PM Thread Starter
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Re: It's a VERY fresh wound and it HURTS

UPDATE:::

Message from his old coworker:

I worked with both of them, "removed name", was the one who begged her, in front of multiple associates, and we were the ones to report it to higher management, when it first started. With the rumors going around, it never stopped him. This went on for months. He even tried to get with her TWIN SISTER first, admitted to fantasies he had with many customers, and harassed some of the female employees. He would get a rag and slap female employees behinds with it, he would make comments about busty girls and how their behinds looked in leggings. Constantly acting like a high school boy when good looking girls would come around, the inappropriate jokes were only the start. Why are you solely blaming her? How do you know he didn't use his manager authority to try to pressure this young girl? What you have is what he states about her, whereas you were not at work with all of us to see the way he talked to her and looked at her, like he was hungry for her. He would touch her in inappropriate places daily. He must have thought he was slick but we all saw what he did.




Kicking him out tonight.

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Good choice.
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I.am.livid.

He is such an embarrassment.

When I confronted him, he said none of this was true. I told him not to come home and he hung up on me.
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Good for you Adegirl.

He was never remorseful Kissing you and telling you he loved you were bare min. When he said you should leave? That was when I would say IM DONE.

Good for you FINALLY being done! Keep us update. Rooting for you. Lace those ***** boots up good and tight, you got some walking to do.
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Be prepared in case he does come home (as he likely will because he expects to talk you around again).
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Re: It's a VERY fresh wound and it HURTS

Given his level of maturity, are you actually surprised by this?

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UPDATE:::

Message from his old coworker:

I worked with both of them, "removed name", was the one who begged her, in front of multiple associates, and we were the ones to report it to higher management, when it first started. With the rumors going around, it never stopped him. This went on for months. He even tried to get with her TWIN SISTER first, admitted to fantasies he had with many customers, and harassed some of the female employees. He would get a rag and slap female employees behinds with it, he would make comments about busty girls and how their behinds looked in leggings. Constantly acting like a high school boy when good looking girls would come around, the inappropriate jokes were only the start. Why are you solely blaming her? How do you know he didn't use his manager authority to try to pressure this young girl? What you have is what he states about her, whereas you were not at work with all of us to see the way he talked to her and looked at her, like he was hungry for her. He would touch her in inappropriate places daily. He must have thought he was slick but we all saw what he did.




Kicking him out tonight.

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Given his level of maturity, are you actually surprised by this?

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UPDATE:::

Message from his old coworker:

I worked with both of them, "removed name", was the one who begged her, in front of multiple associates, and we were the ones to report it to higher management, when it first started. With the rumors going around, it never stopped him. This went on for months. He even tried to get with her TWIN SISTER first, admitted to fantasies he had with many customers, and harassed some of the female employees. He would get a rag and slap female employees behinds with it, he would make comments about busty girls and how their behinds looked in leggings. Constantly acting like a high school boy when good looking girls would come around, the inappropriate jokes were only the start. Why are you solely blaming her? How do you know he didn't use his manager authority to try to pressure this young girl? What you have is what he states about her, whereas you were not at work with all of us to see the way he talked to her and looked at her, like he was hungry for her. He would touch her in inappropriate places daily. He must have thought he was slick but we all saw what he did.




Kicking him out tonight.


No it's not surprising. Just makes me angry again.
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It's one thing to have an affair.

It's another to OPENLY scout out girls in front of everyone. What a pig
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So, what will you do now?

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He's out tonight. I told him not to come home. I can't tell you what's to come of that - bc idk if he is going to try or not. Will update

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How was last night adegirl.

Hope you are doing relatively okay.
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@adegirl What happened last night? Did he try to come home? How are you doing?

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He's out tonight. I told him not to come home. I can't tell you what's to come of that - bc idk if he is going to try or not. Will update
I do.

He's not.

Virginia: "Why can't you kids leave well enough alone? Everything was fine until you started digging around."

Burt: "You sound like a Scooby Doo villain."
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It's a VERY fresh wound and it HURTS

Simple solution. Just completely rag on him nonstop if he does come back. Start argument after argument after argument. He obviously can't handle that and leave. He's just gotten no ability to deal with anyone else.

He told you if you're gonna be like this it won't work out. So be like this on steroids.


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Simple solution. Just completely rag on him nonstop if he does come back. Start argument after argument after argument. He obviously can't handle that and leave. He's just gotten no ability to deal with anyone else.

He told you if you're gonna be like this it won't work out. So be like this on steroids.


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Not the healthiest solution, but it would probably work.

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