I'm sorry I wasn't clear -
He is the one who initiated the call to the girl. He asked me if I wanted him to call her to make sure she understands no more (he didn't want to do it without my permission). I said yes, I do want you to call her and tell her that.
I sent her a text on my own behalf.
Dog and pony show.
If you think he hasn't already clued her in on the lies he told you (that it was 'only oral'), unfortunately, you'd be wrong. Further, it's about 100% likely that he also
warned her that he might be making a phone call to her in front of you and to please stick to the lies he's told you about their involvement. Honestly, if you think he made that offer out of the blue to call her WITHOUT having first told her he was going to do it and asking her NOT to say anything that would get him in more trouble, you'd be very wrong.
Secondly, the worst mistake you could have possibly MADE
was coercing him into having sex with you. You put your baby's health at risk with a possible STD.
Third, he sounds like one of those guys who can no longer feel any sexual desire for a woman once she has his children. I'd be willing to bet that's why your sex life completely tanked after you had your first child. On those rare occasions you DO have sex, he's a complete selfish a*sshole and treats you like a receptical and nothing more. Stop subjecting yourself to that horrifically disrespectful behavior.
Lastly, any man low enough to cheat on his pregnant wife isn't worthy of forgiveness or reconciliation. He's proven himself to be a bottom-feeder who will cross ANY line.
He's shown you exactly who he is. You need to believe him.