Re: It's a VERY fresh wound and it HURTS
Your full relationship potential will most likely depend on the boundaries both of you place into this and how much trust can be restored.
Might as well consider a new nickname for your husband... "Missouri" fits, because everything he needs to do will come with a "Show Me" state.
Show me I am the important person in your life you promised me I was.
Show me that your weaknesses are not more important than your family.
Show me you have learned that there are things worse than the fears of dealing with our challenges.
Show me you understand the pain you caused us.
Show me I can trust you again...
The more he shows, the the more confidence you will regain in him, and the more faith you will bring back to your relationship.
I am not a fan of hardening the heart... but you do need a boundary that is attainable for you and understandable for him.
He can choose to repair this, and you can choose to forgive this... choice, what a wonderful action because every decision we make is a new chance to do the right thing.
Birth is a miraculous thing, starting new, there is a lesson in the timing should your husband choose to see it.
May the birth of your daughter be blessed...