No, just no, kids and smoking weed daily. No ambition. Broken lack of character. What do you see in him besides history? Look up "sunk cost fallacy."
We got married too quickly. When we met, he was actually my manager at this restaurant/bar that we both worked at. It was in a little college town. So it's not surprise that he continues to go for girls that he works with. I mean... he did it to me. But it was different then because we were young and single.
We got pregnant with our son after just a few months of dating. Our parents pressured us to marry (mostly his). I feel like they pressured him to marry me because they knew I was a catch. I am not trying to talk myself up here. Because right now.. in many ways... i feel like the ugliest woman on the planet. But I feel like to his parents, I would be a great fit.
I mean think about it... If I leave... he is still where he was at 5 years ago when we married. Working in a restaurant.
I have grown a lot ... I am going places. I WILL BE OKAY.
If i leave.. he loses his good guy status with everyone else.
Anyway - he says that he wants to have a relationship with me now and that he realizes he has never treated me right. He says he knows that we have to basically start from scratch and that he is willing to do that.
I won't 100 percent talk bad about him... he DID quit smoking. He used to stay up super late playing video games.. then would sleep in ... now he goes to bed with me and wakes up with me. It makes such a difference to have help with the kids early in the morning.
He has started helping me cook. We have had great conversation. It's like we are FINALLY having the relationship that we should have had all along.
But that doesn't mean that it's enough to make me stay. I can have this kind of relationship with anyone. Plus he has put me through too much...
my mind is going CRAZY. the best advice I ever got was that I don't have to make a decision right now.. today... I can wait.