7 years ago I was sitting in your shoes. If anything I've learned about affairs... "There's always more."
Hold on, prepare for more to follow as you keep "investigating" the past. Personally, I caught my WW in a short EAPA with an old BF from college days. I suspected more. Investigating old email archives and phone records... turns out she had been Serial Cheating for years with multiple OM.
Probably the biggest lie in the cheater handbook... It was a one-time mistake, I've never done anything like this before... "I swear." I even got the "old hand on the Bible lie."
My IC explained it like this... The Serial Cheater has a pretty weak hand. The only card they can play is to minimize the number of APs and the length and depth (Sex) that the affair entailed. No PUNs intended.
Forget all this crap about 15 years ago. This had nothing to do with that. So now on your thread you caught her setting up an affair and in one she was involved in. You said this latest was two weeks. How long was she in this therapy.??
You do not need any more information but I hope you read the above should you have any thoughts about reconciliation. Maybe i have it wrong but she walks into therapy office and almost instantly is banging the guy in the next office. my guess is she has done this before so if you are inclined to even discuss not divorcing her you better find yourself a polygraph examiner, and at least be prepared to find out more. not recommending you bother but just in case.
She was involved in one affair and was setting up another one. You really believe this were the only two instances now with what you know??? Had you not been proactive, she would probably be involved with two other men at the same time.
hang in there. Your attorney will tell you what reality will look like. Don't project unless you are an attorney.
And lastly, unless i am wrong, you are stating her parents are blaming you. Are you ****ting me??? I understand that they will eventually come down on her side but not even angry with their daughter??? These people are whackos