Re: Started the paperwork
Hey guys thanks for the replies. I guess I should have been more specific, I had already sent it before I put it on here. So the fall out...
Surprisingly little to tell u the truth. I sent it out about ten thirty pm on Thursday night. I left that next morning to go on a snowboarding trip a few hours away. I didn't hear from her on Friday, but on Saturday she calls me twice and texts me twice and sends me an email saying she needed to talk to me all in the space of 20 min. Then like an hour later she sends me a text saying "I don't know why ur ignoring me but there are mistakes in our sep paperwork. I didn't get these till a couple hours later because I didnt take my phone on the slopes with me, and I decided that since I am in180 mode and I was with friends that I wasn't going to call her right back. So I waited until today when I was home and alone to call her back, braced for fireworks after my email to her. But surprisingly enough, we had an amicable chat about the sep papers. There were a couple mistakes in there, nothing big, and neither her or I were upset about them. We talk briefly about our son and how we are doing, keeping it very light and that was it... What is weird to me is that she never once mentioned anything about the email I sent her. Not one word, not even me saying how messed up it was that she was cheating on me in front of him. Knowing her that should have sent her into a level of pissed off that I have never seen before. Not a word. Between that and the flood of email/phone calls/text messages in 20 min and the email I sent her and her not mentioning it I am wondering what is really going on here. Let's look at the facts..
I sent her email on Thursday night, but she prob didn't read it till Friday. Didn't hear a peep from her, surprisingly enough, it should have had her seeing red and telling me how wrong I was and all the things I've done wrong according to her.
I assume she got the sep paperwork on Saturday. She knew it was coming, and the contents of the agreement. She repeatedly tries to contact me. Her final message says she wants to talk about the separation paperwork.
Today we talk about sep papers and little stuff, no relationship stuff. the mistakes in the sep paperwork were very minor, not something to flood all forms of communication with me trying to get a hold of me. No mention of email.
I have to admit I'm confused by her tactics. Lol... My working theory is that she initially wanted to talk about something else, but probably got frustrated when I didn't get a hold of her, so she is maintaining her cool attitude toward me. I've seen her do it in the past where if I don't get back to her on something right away(especially something where she has to be emotionally brave and has screwed her courage up or if she's upset) she will get kind of cold and stand offish and won't discuss whatever it was. Although I cant really say she was cold to me today. Our tones were more like when our marriage was good and we were making a decision on something. Not light and playful, but not all matter of fact and serious either. Hard to explain...
Interesting tidbit on OM. My friend says he posted on his Facebook " a woman will sell her soul for a little attention."
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