Re: Started the paperwork
Hey everyone, thought i would pop in for an update...going NC has been working pretty good. However, reapeadtly in the last couple of weeks, she has been trying to get me to reengage with her son. I don't think that this is a good idea. I have told her that i don't think i can be part of his life anymore. this makes me feel terribly guilty, but i think its for the best and this is why,
1. He is my stepson, so i have no legal rights in his parenting
2. She is very manipulative-i know her very well and the minute she gets mad at me, or i start seeing someone else, she will yank him away from me so fast it will make your head spin.
3. She lives in NY now, and I live in VA. How am i ever supposed to see him. Its not like she will ever make any effort to bring him down here.
So today she texts me asking if i would like to see him when she comes down here for something (no idea why she's coming down, didn't ask/don't care) in late FEB. i said i would like to, but that i would be out of state for work. she then proceeded to basically talk me into being part of his life again. she even promised that i would never have to talk to her, that she would have her mom do the drop offs/pick ups. when i told her no, she says she understands, that if she were in my position, she would feel the way i do, even though she didn't really cheat on me...unbeleivable. part of me still feels that she is using the boy to try to keep her hooks in me....
oh, and i finally got the seperation paperwork back from her. a whole month after i sent them to her. funny coincidence, on monday, i posted something on facebook about one door closed, another one opens...i said that because i went on a date with a nice girl, and had a good time (didn't post that part though)... and i think it got back to her(we have mutal friends and i am sure she has someone watching my page) and two days later I got the seperation paperwork.
People sleep peaceably in their beds at night only because rough men stand ready to do violence on their behalf.