dymo

If you haven't already, you should explain it to her in exactly these terms next time you talk.

happyman64

Exactly what I was thinking.

If not saying it to her at least write her.

Very sad for you and the boy.

warlock07

I think you are taking the wrong approach. Don't build your happiness on her ruin. That is counter productive.

And the kid, I think you are doing it wrong. I think you can slowly ease him off. How can she manipulate you if you are aware of it. How many parents don't maintain a platonic relationship for the kids. If she tries to manipulate you using the kid, don't let her. She is a bad person that made some very bad and selfish choices. But she is not your concern now.

crazyconfused

well you guys gave me a lot to think about.

yesterday, i wrote a text message to the boy (on her phone) saying i was sorry i missed his calls. no response.

this morning i texted her, saying that i would like speak if him if he still wants to talk, but i don't have anything to say to her...you know what kind of response i got. crickets....yup, nothing. i did this for a couple of reasons...i really don't mind talking to him at all, its nice. but to see if she would actually have him call if i made it clear to her i didn't want to talk to her...we see how that turned out. she dosen't work, and its presidents day, so i know he is not in school.

i know shes angry at me for not picking up the phone, but she told me when she texted me before they called that voicemail was fine. and i know she's really p1ssed off because i said i had nothing to say to her. Can't win.

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crazyconfused

So it after ten so I know the boy is in bed... Nothin from them.
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happyman64

You did the right thing and reached out to them, especially your stepson.

Just leave it alone now.

It is up to her to put the boy on the phone.

She is a jerk.
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crazyconfused

So i got the divorce paperwork from the document preparers today and emailed them to the STBXW. Of course i got nothing from her....i have just been so angry and frustrated this last couple of weeks. I can file next week. And I think thats whats eating at me... i am really having a hard time sleeping. i think that all this is just bringing back alot of anger...frustrated.

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crazyconfused

Is this normal. To be so frustrated and angry. She hasn't even shown any remorse. Tonight she writes me and says its better off this way, that' she is moving away to costa rica this summer. Somehow it just seems she's so much farther ahead than me... I don't understand why this is eating at me so badly
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