Re: Maybe this is just what we needed?
Please stop - you are fooling yourself b/c you are scared, the kids, money, etc.
My STBXW sounds exactly like yours. She wanted a separation so she could explore the green grass. Trouble is, we're still MARRIED. SHE CHEATED. YOUR WIFE CHEATED. YOU"RE STILL MARRIED.
She's coming back b/c whatever she found wasn't as good as what she had. In the meantime, she crushed you. Humiliated you.
Are you willing to be 2nd best for the rest of your life? Are you willing to take her scraps?
You sound like a nice guy. you read No More Mr. Nice Guy? If not, read it ASAP.
Stand up. Man up. Move on.
Easier said then done, I know. I have 3 kids too. But I was in a similar spot as you a few months ago. I tried to play the nice guy - "let's R, "I want this to work," "You're my best friend," etc. IT DOESN'T WORK.
Your choice on how to proceed, but I beseech you to listen to those who have gone thru this already.