Re: Online affairs
I wonder if we are thinking of the same people?
This is my last post on TAM. I have thought about whether or not to post this but I'm going to do it because it has irritated me for some time, mainly because of the hypocrisy I see going on here.
There is one guy on TAM who latches on to women who are particularly vulnerable inasmuch as having a sexual dysfunction within their marriage. He PM's 'support' and offers daily friendship and genuinely offers great advice. After a time, when he has gained confidence, he moves this 'friendship' further by asking to exchange intimate details of sex acts, fantasies etc. When he either doesn't get what he wants or gets bored he moves onto another woman. I also know he circulates other forums looking for online sexual interaction with women who share a sexual kink. His wife does not know what he does and in my opinion is having multiple on-line affairs - whilst at the same time well meaning posters offer sincere support when he reports of his wife's 'unreasonable' behaviour.
He is a daily poster and generally seen as a nice guy, charming and well thought of. In public he claims to be pro-marriage, anti-infidelity and a Christian man who loves his family. Many of his problems that he posts about are actually his own doing because of his past mistakes - but in public a very different story is told where he is a victim of his LD wife's craziness. It also creates an opportunity for him to approach women via PM 'my wife doesn't understand me'. Its easy to get sucked in.
Point is...be careful when you get into friendships and daily support groups when you are discussing sex or issues around personal vulnerability. Sometimes those that appear to be your friend are not always so and the stories we are told are very much one sided. Be careful not to get over involved in other people's issues and remember you don't know the agenda of the person who wants to 'support' you.
Not 100% sure, but there are a few who do this. I kept my pm's closed for a while, and then I thought...I'll just not reply if I get a pm from a married guy. Please don't leave though...I like your posts ((hug))
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