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post #1156 of 1159 (permalink) Old 04-04-2017, 07:39 PM
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Betting time.

I give it two months tops before he's back. Anyone want to play?
I thinking this is more like a 6 years later kind of thing. The ones where it seems good for a while but the WS brokenness creeps back into the picture.

Cam could also go through a mid life crisis as many men are known to do and if I was Mrs. Cam I would be ****ting bricks. I don't envy the WS when that happens. You read lots of post from WW who cheat early and then are in panic mode when their husbands hits their mid 40's and the loyalty bond men have with their wives hasn't been there for a while.


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I'm sorry about that, I too have experienced the same thing. 300 days of mental infidelity. But the question I will always have is that if they never got caught up would it have stopped. I'm praying for you and your family recovery. Stay Above Above The Waters.
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Cam could also go through a mid life crisis as many men are known to do and if I was Mrs. Cam I would be ****ting bricks. I don't envy the WS when that happens. You read lots of post from WW who cheat early and then are in panic mode when their husbands hits their mid 40's and the loyalty bond men have with their wives hasn't been there for a while.
I have also seen this among colleagues. The wife cheats when the guy is in his 30's or early 40's. He sticks around. Then a few years later the younger ladies at the office are paying him a lot of attention. His SMV is high. He has a career, some money, a touch of gray hair on the temples. To them he is distinguished, mature, a catch. Meanwhile his cheating wife is older, many times a bit heavier, some crows feet and liver spots showing up. She is not stacking up well against the younger models at work, and remember, they have not cheated on him.

He takes a look at her and thinks, "hell with it, she got to have her fun, now its my turn."

Not saying its a good idea. Just that I have seen it happen more than once.
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I have also seen this among colleagues. The wife cheats when the guy is in his 30's or early 40's. He sticks around. Then a few years later the younger ladies at the office are paying him a lot of attention. His SMV is high. He has a career, some money, a touch of gray hair on the temples. To them he is distinguished, mature, a catch. Meanwhile his cheating wife is older, many times a bit heavier, some crows feet and liver spots showing up. She is not stacking up well against the younger models at work, and remember, they have not cheated on him.

He takes a look at her and thinks, "hell with it, she got to have her fun, now its my turn."

Not saying its a good idea. Just that I have seen it happen more than once.
That's the risk they take. It's hard for even the best men when they start to realize there youth is gone, now throw into the mix the wife that has stabbed you in the back. The pain is still there every day, the triggers, the doubt. If the guy was always a good man and successful. Look out, he starts thinking, what the hell am I doing here. He doesn't even have to cheat maybe he just decides that it is not worth the effort and he can do better.

Another big one is when the trauma goes away. It can take a few years, but the they live with the self-doubt and fight through it and it's really only the doubt that kept them holding on. Maybe it is just age that has given them confidence because when you get older most people get a different mindset. Other peoples opinion stops mattering so much. Once that is gone there is no love left to keep they guy, that was killed by the affair. How many posts do you read from men 5 - 10 years out who just don't really care or respect their wives anymore because of what they did. They no longer have the fear and they just want to move on. His wife showed him no loyalty so he doesn't feel the need to show her any.

The adultery never goes away.
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