My husband is in love with another woman... they've been having an emotional affair for the last few months. We started therapy before the affair began, but I feel like it's getting in the way of any progress the two of us as a couple could even have a chance at.
As my husband puts it, we had problems before the affair happened (ok, fair). That said, he has also said that he is torn between two women. He loves me- we've built a life together, but he loves and is in love with her (and apparently the feeling is mutual.. they haven't told each other they love one another, but they've discussed that they've fallen or are falling for each other.
He did say that the "love" is different. Well, no duh! We have history, all he has with her is the shiny parts behind text and facebook messages, oh and that they F*ING work together...--to be fair, they've been friends for about a year, but the emotions started forming in the last few months. The funny part about all of this is, she is having issues in her own marriage too, for longer than he and I have. She is also going to therapy with her husband (he doesn't know of the affair yet). Oh, and she's due with a baby at the beginning of February. Could this really be love? Or is this infatuation because they've bonded over their marriage issues, and then her hormones on top of that!?
They do have a lot in common, but couldn't that get boring? I have struggled with anxiety, and I have smothered my husband because I'm more dependent than I am independent, and to him, he can never quantify things for me because I guess I come off as needing how much he loves me quantified, and things like that. I lost myself when we moved out of my hometown and I focused more on being a mom than on fanning our relationship.
Help!
As my husband puts it, we had problems before the affair happened (ok, fair). That said, he has also said that he is torn between two women. He loves me- we've built a life together, but he loves and is in love with her (and apparently the feeling is mutual.. they haven't told each other they love one another, but they've discussed that they've fallen or are falling for each other.
He did say that the "love" is different. Well, no duh! We have history, all he has with her is the shiny parts behind text and facebook messages, oh and that they F*ING work together...--to be fair, they've been friends for about a year, but the emotions started forming in the last few months. The funny part about all of this is, she is having issues in her own marriage too, for longer than he and I have. She is also going to therapy with her husband (he doesn't know of the affair yet). Oh, and she's due with a baby at the beginning of February. Could this really be love? Or is this infatuation because they've bonded over their marriage issues, and then her hormones on top of that!?
They do have a lot in common, but couldn't that get boring? I have struggled with anxiety, and I have smothered my husband because I'm more dependent than I am independent, and to him, he can never quantify things for me because I guess I come off as needing how much he loves me quantified, and things like that. I lost myself when we moved out of my hometown and I focused more on being a mom than on fanning our relationship.
Help!