Re: Need some help...
I've never been a fan of "having to know the details". You pretty well know the "mechanics" of it and its more than likely she did at least as much with this cat as she's done with you. Besides, if she does tell you the details, its virtually impossible to know if youre hearing it the way it actually went down and at best its her perspective. While not completely agreeing with Thound, its rare that women who step out on their husbands limits it to a single event When a woman cheats, my position is her romantic interest has waned, she thought hard about it before crossing that line, and if she's going break her vow of loyalty, she's going to try and get her money's worth.
Based on your concerns, you've got a lot more bird dogging to do before you decide what direction to take.
If you don't embody controversy, what you say will become just another part of the media driven culture of stifling thought and debate about issues.