He says he will not be able to live without us and is willing to do anything. He says I need to understand that my anger issues after the second child pushed him away. Throughout the mail he mentions he takes full responsibility for what has happened.
He ended the it with "I'm tendering resignation with immediate effect.
I m so confused. I don't know if I should believe him. I did not reply. I need details but still I don't know if the pain I feel will ever go away. It's more painful today than ever
I still hear alot of blame shifting and gas lighting going on. Blaming your anger, your post partum, etc what about his awful behaviour in Asia. Be very careful how you proceed. I would not reply, take time to think about what you saw in the emails, the photos the messages, etc, he is trying to make it seem like you are the problem. He is back home now in the hopes you will just forget it all and move on, don't, you need to know the full truth of what happened and if he cheated on you, your gut is the best clue you have.
You both still need STD tests, make sure he knows that is what you are doing. A lie detector is in order and if you still want him in your life MC.
Did you have problems with anger, depression etc. What did he do to help you?
You are only hearing a very sanitized version of events, I wouldn't believe him, he has shown you what he is capable of, the hurt and pain you have felt is real, what is to stop him doing this again?
Still go see the lawyer, your WH needs a major come to Jesus moment. Do not engage or commit, show him you are unwilling to engage with him until you are satisfied he has told your everything. Do the 180, emotionally detach for now, get papers drawn up.
Show him you mean business and will never be treated so badly ever again. Coming home is a move in the right direction but maybe an attempt by him to rug sweep and move on, he knew that you would probably move on without him. Don't let him back into your life so easily.
Tbh, Kukabura, if nothing had happened in the Asian country, he wouldn't be pulling out all the stops, he would have sat you down and been honest as he would have nothing to hide, both of you know that he has cheated on you, his behaviour and reaction is showing it all. He was like a deer caught in the headlights in Asia when you found the mails, he didn't know what to do, damned if he said something, damned if he didn't. He is guilty, no doubt about it.
In moving forward with or without him, you need the full truth, otherwise it will eat you up and your marriage is doomed anyhow. He needs to know this.