Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Away and beyond in a hot place
Re: What's going on?
There is nothing there to go on yet. Did you take down the numbers? Maybe you can have a girl friend call them from another phone to see who answers. Or buy a burner phone, easy to buy a sim card in asian countries without registering. Call the numbers see who answers.
The sex videos may be a habit he got into when you were not available.
Do you have a swimming pool in your condo? or are you living in a house with a pool
Someone asking him for money doesn't sound right, though an Asian girlfriend just might, they are well known for touching up white guys for dosh. Was the number the same as the one asking to go for a swim?
Where did he live before you and the kids came over?
Did any colleagues come over to visit? Ask innocently but don't raise any suspicions. Keep watching, recording and your mouth shut, ears and eyes open.
It is possible something was going on before you arrived but now it is shut down. Try and get acquainted with his colleagues, ask him to meet them, invite them for dinner, buy lots of wine, (you do not drink), let them talk and gossip, you never know what slips out. Tell your husband you want to meet his colleagues. Why wouldn't he want you meeting them, ask him (as that is a red flag).
You can do this. It requires patience, tenacity and silence on your part.