I'm re-reading the advice on this thread again and I must say it's helpful to put my thoughts together.
I'm not going to talk to him about lawyer stuff, I don't know how he will react, I will do that when I'm safe back home via email. He loves the kids to bits and had missed them so much during the past year although he flew home frequently.
I will tell his mother for sure, but she is the kind who always sides her children no matter how wrong they are, so I doubt she will be of help to me, let's see.
I spoke to my neighbour friend(she is a local but studied in U.K.) regarding exposing at work, her advise is it's a waste and probably the top management also does these at work here. She is urging me to go back and make him get a transfer back home. I have asked him before if he can get posted back home and is answer is no job back home and this is the only project, besides, he gets paid 3x the pay here.
I will do the STD test once I reach home. I have not moved money yet. I do have my own savings but he has more. We have no joint account but I have a set of cards to use from his account.
He has been with kids all these while and using his laptop. I was at the neighbours house for a while. I have decided to book tickets for Monday morning.
I don't know what my plans are for the future but I don't want to be with him. Am I being too harsh? should I work on the marriage and fix this? But it's not my job to fix it, he ruined it. This is what he does each time I'm upset, makes it look like it's all my fault.