I want people to tell me to shut up and enjoy what I have.
Shut up and enjoy what you have. Oh, that is not going to be enough. Your are married to that wonderful wife....not me.
Without being obvious or fawning, treat her like gold. Look in directly in her eyes and tell her that you love her, so much.
Never, never, ever, tell her that you DO NOT deserve her!!
Do not plant that seed. That little acorn, that little kernel of truth will grow in her subconscious mind and become that thing that you did not want.
That thing that you did not want but now have to deal with. If she is happy with you, do not reformulate the happy lotion into an unhappy notion......for her.
Do not reinforce the negativity that is not even there.
This forum, "Talk about Marriage" is a great place to learn. But it is a dangerous place for those that are insecure and those that are paranoid.
Come back and read, as needed. Come back and be unraveled if you are not wise and mature enough to handle what is written here. This blog sometimes depresses the crap out of me! Pulls at my heart strings.
Find out what her love language is. Once you discover this. Talk incessantly using those "words". Actions are unwritten and the strongist words. Remember that, Bub !