12-19-2011, 12:21 PM
Join Date: Jan 2010
| | Re: I've decided that I'm going to make less contact with husband
Originally Posted by desert-rose
It's good that you're sprucing yourself up, but be sure you're doing it because it makes you feel good and powerful and happy and not *only* doing it to please him in a way that makes you feel cheap. Often, dolling yourself up will make you feel better about yourself, too.
Don't play headgames. Do back away and let him pursue you. You want him to prove his love, not just offer you crumbs, especially if you're having to do a 180 on him and if you're prone to being vocal and generous with your expressions of love.
Thanks for the advice. Before my husband and I even were talking about reconsliing and even really on talking terms at all. I was sprucing myself up for him. I had pictures of myself on FB, not cheap or anything, but he admitted he looked at those. I know of one comment on my page that drove him crazy about a belly button ring I was thinking of getting and another guy that made obscene comments(that is not not on a friend list anymore) My H asked this weekend if I was still planning to get my navel pierced. Hes throwing hints out about it being healed by spring/summer for a cruise
I have been practicing the approach of less contact with him, making him contact me. So far its working. I did not tell him good morning this morning thgouh text until he sent me a text that said "Btw, Morning"
He was home all day yesterday and text me all day, his choice.
I must admit, that it is very hard for me to not tell him I miss and I love him, but I feel that I'm doing it.
He brought up on saturday that he would like to spend the night with me this coming weekend.