Re: I've decided that I'm going to make less contact with husband
It's good that you're sprucing yourself up, but be sure you're doing it because it makes you feel good and powerful and happy and not *only* doing it to please him in a way that makes you feel cheap. Often, dolling yourself up will make you feel better about yourself, too.
Don't play headgames. Do back away and let him pursue you. You want him to prove his love, not just offer you crumbs, especially if you're having to do a 180 on him and if you're prone to being vocal and generous with your expressions of love.