My wife has been flirt texting another man - HELP!!

CGguy · 12-20-2011, 01:02 PM

Also, thanks for all the input. It has definitely given me an idea of what to look for. I hope this will just be a blip on the radar.

Almostrecovered · 12-20-2011, 01:03 PM

what kind of phone?

CGguy · 12-20-2011, 01:30 PM

droid X

Almostrecovered · 12-20-2011, 01:39 PM

that has an sd card

How to Retrieve Deleted Text Messages from Mobile Phone SD Card?

turnera · 12-20-2011, 01:51 PM

You need to have her give YOU the NC letter so you can read it and make sure it feels legitimate (and that she actually did it); then YOU send it to him.

CGguy · 12-20-2011, 02:01 PM

looks like I need a reader for it to work. You can't just plug the phone in and run the software.

Almostrecovered · 12-20-2011, 02:04 PM

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looks like I need a reader for it to work. You can't just plug the phone in and run the software.

can get them fairly cheap online for $20

CGguy · 12-20-2011, 02:07 PM

looks like they even have them at walmart. and the software has a trial version. interesting. might be worth taking a look. probably won't like what I see, but at least I'll know for sure.

Almostrecovered · 12-20-2011, 02:08 PM

here's hoping it isn't dday two for you

braehead · 12-20-2011, 03:10 PM

Quote from Cali_hope:

"You did good but I would have added that your wife to tell newly divorced friend to find 'single' wingwomen to go hunting with, no ladies night with single women. Now if the friends divorce was caused by her infidelity - no contact with your wife as she will be toxic to your marriage."

I have to quote Cali_hope above, as I think that response is right on the money. She cannot go barhopping with a single gal, and not expect to face temptations. If she did all that, and no one else found her attractive enough to strike up a conversation that would be another issue, but chances are, other guys will find her attractive. Very few people can handle that kind of pressure without 'giving it a thought'.

One other thing to remember too, is that if she is indeed having an emotional affair, a soul tie is already formed. She will have to break that tie! One sure way to help this process is for her to break all contacts with him of her own volition, not just because you demand it! She must do it for you and for her marriage. That is crucial!

all the best to you both,

braehead

CGguy · 12-20-2011, 03:20 PM

Thanks brae. She will tell her friend, they talk about everything. She is telling me with 100% certainty that her and OG never talked on the phone or met. It was mostly done because he thinks shes funny and smart, and that made her feel good because her self esteem was crap. Even though I was telling her these things all the time, but I guess I'm supposed to right so it doesn't matter as much apparently. I'm on the fence about it, but would like to believe her.

Her friend was not - non faithful to my knowledge. Her husband was an a-hole. I saw that first hand. But her friend is partying like she's in college again and I don't want my wife to get dragged into that more than she already has been. It would be different if I was going too. Which I told her that. She seems okay with it, so that is a start. She knows she screwed up big time. She's told me that. Know it is time for her to prove to me that she can be trusted again, and its' up to me to find if I can trust her again. But I definitely want to try.

TRy · 12-20-2011, 04:12 PM

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wife was going to ask if he'd want to hang out with them, and her friend replyed 'cool' basically. But, her justification of that is that they would not have been out alone, and that they are just friends. I just wish she never hid the friendship, maybe I would be a little jealous, but there wouldn't be this feeling of betrayal. That is where she went wrong in this whole thing.

Where she went wrong was that she should have asked her husband and not another man to hang out with her.

MrK · 12-20-2011, 06:35 PM

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It would be different if I was going too. Which I told her that. She seems okay with it, so that is a start.

Let us know when she asks you to go barhopping with her. We'll want to hear how the night goes. See if you get the same rush out of it she does.

What's that, Dexter? You don't think she'll ask? Yeah, you're probably right. It's no fun when the cat's around...

Dadof3 · 12-20-2011, 06:45 PM

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Let us know when she asks you to go barhopping with her. We'll want to hear how the night goes. See if you get the same rush out of it she does.

What's that, Dexter? You don't think she'll ask? Yeah, you're probably right. It's no fun when the cat's around...

MrK, are you borrowing from the saying "when the dogs are away, the cats will play"? if so, I think u mean dog. *ARF!*

MrK · 12-20-2011, 07:01 PM

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MrK, are you borrowing from the saying "when the dogs are away, the cats will play"? if so, I think u mean dog. *ARF!*

Never heard that one.

If the cat is away, the mice will play.