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post #166 of 173 (permalink) Old 03-17-2017, 06:53 AM
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You know what else she said? She said when they were together all she was thinking that wished I could too feel such happiness. Well, LA-DI-FRICKIN'-DA!!! Isn't that poetic!!
You couldn't think about it at the time.. that is such a WTF thing to say. A good come back "So when he was pounding you anally, you thought about how you were ****ing me in the ass too and how much I would enjoy it? Gee, thanks."

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You know what else she said? She said when they were together all she was thinking that wished I could too feel such happiness. Well, LA-DI-FRICKIN'-DA!!! Isn't that poetic!!
Why don't you meet a nice woman who is only interested in casual sex, and spend a few evenings with her. Then come home and tell your "wife" that you now understand what she means because you've experienced the "happiness", then give her all the details. I guarantee you that she won't be happy about it ... but I'm convinced you will fell better.


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You know what else she said? She said when they were together all she was thinking that wished I could too feel such happiness. Well, LA-DI-FRICKIN'-DA!!! Isn't that poetic!!


Barf.
Next time you should tell her ...you know when i am with you now, and we seem to be bonding, and i look into your eyes, and i caress your face, i just want you to know "I FEEL DEAD!!!"
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She's been talking about sex. I told her I'm okay with waiting 90 days after she last had sex to get an std test. Blech.
So would you say that you're now a bit more solidly in the "let's just keep this together until the kids are gone" camp yourself?

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So would you say that you're now a bit more solidly in the "let's just keep this together until the kids are gone" camp yourself?
I get what you're getting at. I don't think so. Unless she starts putting forth some serious effort like IC and truly owning her sh*t, it would just show she's biding time. And I really hate the idea of being a crutch. I've been a doormat for too long.

I mean, I love sex and all, but it still seems like a lot of effort towards something that has an expiration date.
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It's like I told you on another board. You're dragging a dead dog on a leash through the park. End this.

It's not so much the affair but the prior three years of abuse. I've read all your prior threads. The limbo you've lived through really pisses me off. Put a stake in it and be the best Dad you can be to your kids.
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I get what you're getting at. I don't think so. Unless she starts putting forth some serious effort like IC and truly owning her sh*t, it would just show she's biding time. And I really hate the idea of being a crutch. I've been a doormat for too long.

I mean, I love sex and all, but it still seems like a lot of effort towards something that has an expiration date.
It's already expired

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I have not told them. I know the older ones know something is up and I have been pondering what to tell them. It's kind of an important Spring around here as our oldest one is about to go off to college. I'd hate to have her leave amidst such chaos without an understanding of what's happening.
There is always a good excuse to do nothing hoping it'll all just go away.

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