Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Away and beyond in a hot place
Re: Possible EA or just me being paranoid about a platonic friendship?
Squid, you are moving in the right direction, cannot beleive you let her call all the shots for three years and put up with it. You have to pull up your big boy panties and be a man of action, a leader, the head of your household. YOur wife has you by the short and curlies and you have allowed it and for what exactly? You are not doing your kids any favours at all.
Your wife has showed you her hand, you don't feature in her life long term, why pay for everything, help her coparent and do all while she cavorts, fraternises or even worse with an OM?
Get your ducks in a row, it is irrelevant whether she has cheated, she has told you she doesn't want you basically except as a money earner till kids grow up
1. Go 180 on the wife, tell her nothing about your plan,s discuss kids, household etc. Act like you don't care, emotionally detach from her. Start to dress better, lose weight, etc. Think about a future life with someone in it that loves you, appreciates you, understands you, she is out there.
2.Tell family and friends, ask for support from those who are close to you
3. Go do things for yourself, the gym, clubs, etc
4. Get IC to see why you would allow someone to walk over you for so long and take it.
5. Go see a lawyer, see what your options are, serve her as soon as possible.
She wants to find herself, give her wants she wants.